If I am riding and Whiskey and I are completely butting heads to the point nothing beneficial is happening, and I am getting pissed off - I know that it's time to get off. So, I get off and lunge her.
If she was being disrespectful or testing boundaries (which most green horses do), I lunge the snot out of her until she is sweaty and breathing hard - then get back on and ask for something I know she can do so we end on the good note. Then I usually try the next lesson to make sure:
1. I am asking her clearly and calmly for the action.
2. She is physically and mentally ready to give me what I am asking.
3. I don't make excuses for her or me, if she is really fighting me I usually am the problem by not following steps 1 or 2.
Basically, as soon as you lose your temper and start beating, jerking, spurring, etc - you lose trust and create a fearful horse, which is the root cause of most problems in horses.
Good luck with your mare - try to get her on a consistent program and you will see results much faster...
There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. - Nelson Mandela
Last edited by Ace80908; 07-26-2012 at 11:02 PM.