I never said groom her or mess with her. Get her caught, give her a little bit of grain and leave her alone to eat it and as soon as she is done turn her loose again. You can't MAKE her want to be with you because she isn't going to. I have a dog that wants to be with me so I don't have to pen him. He just lays on the front porch and waits for me to come outside. I have never seen a horse that would do that. That tells me that they would rather be with other horses 99% of the time. For a reward and to establish that good things happen when she gets caught don't force yourself on her. You can catch her again later to groom her and "mess" with her.
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