Well, if you know how to do it all, there's a start, but 3 weeks is a short time to teach the foundations well, let alone the high level stuff you've added in too, so I think you've got your work cut out for you even if you're a very good trainer!
May I ask why you are wanting to accomplish all this in such a short time? No offense, but I think that unless you are that great trainer looking for a challenge, you're setting yourself & your horse up for failure, putting yourselves under so much pressure. There are likely to be 'side effects' to this rush, aside from him not being very well trained at anything because you've only done a little of everything.
Originally Posted by mlkarel2010
right now I'm working on us getting along and being able to do simple stuff like transitions right and i'm working a bit on softness
That's a good place to start, if you already have a good relationship going. I would teach this on the ground at first. Do it all on his back only after you've got the behaviour solid on line. Teach him to go in a particular gait & direction on a loose rein, until you ask for a change. When riding, this is best done to start with in an arena, so you can *allow* him to go and *ask* him to stop/slow without having to *make* him because of safety issues.
The leading manners, jumping and braveness on the trail can all be combined to save time & make things more interesting, by taking him for bush walks. Have him on a long lead, so that you can drive or lead him over, around, through various obstacles and allow him to drift a bit without getting out of control.
The braveness/bombproofing - I don't know what level of braveness you want the horse, but I think this may be one of the harder things to accomplish if you're rushing. Horses are innately reactive to unfamiliar things, which they can be desensitised to, but they also need a trusted and confident leader to follow. If you're not yet his trusted, respected leader, it will make it a lot harder for him to listen to you in the face of 'dangers'. To try to force the issue could make him worse, and undermine any trust he already had in you.
we have to master flying lead changes, I think he might have an idea how to do this....
He has to learn about sliding stops, turn backs, spins....
He has to be able to lope fast and slow, fast will be the hard part, he's lazy....
I think these 'high school' type things would be better forgotten about until you've got the basics going very well. After all, that's pretty much what they are - the basics done to perfection. Get him reliably staying in gait, soft transitions & turns on the fore- or hind-quarters at slow gaits first. Do it gradually, one small step at a time, reinforcing him for the right behaviour as much as possible, until it eventually becomes a full lap on a loose rein, finally becomes a full 360 turn, etc. Once you've taught all that very well, then it's just a matter of refining it *gradually* until the turn becomes a spin, the stop becomes a slide, etc.
I have to learn how to ride bareback, and he has to get used to it...
This is a fantastic way of developing a great, independent seat. It is also usually fine for the horse, so long as they are reasonably fit and you are not terribly heavy or a bouncy, bad rider. I would start in an arena at a walk and practice your staying in gait on a loose rein exercises. Allowing him to go wherever he wants in the arena, so long as he does it at a walk is a great passenger lesson. You learn to zig when he zigs, zag when he zags, and not hassle him with the reins until he breaks gait. He learns self carriage and to be responsible for staying in the requested gait to avoid 'corrections'. Once it feels good at a walk, do the same at a trot.
All the best for you & your horse.