Ok loveeemyhorseee, I must say that I find it insulting how you seem to think you know my horse better than I, to tell me that my horse would prefer bitless but I just want to control her so I make her go in a bit anyway and cause her pain.
Here is a photo of my gorgeous girl...
Now in this photo, I was taking her on a walk on the trails, one of her favorite things to do. Notice NO TACK I'm just walking beside her with just her halter and lead rope. Why am I doing this? Because she was coming off of an injury she sustained in the pasture and she washn't rideable at the time. But I wanted her to still be able to do one of her fave things, going trail riding with me :)
So let me ask you...do I still sound like the sort of person that would purposefully inflict pain on my horse just to control her?
Still not convinced? Ok here's another...
Again, halter and lead rope only...this was just a lazy day when we wanted to bask in the sunlight one spring...this was NOT in an enclosed paddock, it was in the yard. I trust her and she trusts me, and she let me jump up onto her back from the ground without so much as a twitch of her nose. She enjoys the sunshine and eating grass ;) And I enjoy being with her and the sunshine as well! Still sound like I'm a cruel mouth-ripping monster???
My mare is my baby girl - I don't have children but she more than fills that hole for me. I love her more than most people, and I would NEVER do anything to cause her pain.
As I've said before, I have tried riding her in a figure 8 which uses pressure on the nose and she told me right away that she HATED that, by throwing her head around and swishing her tail and getting quick and short with her steps. So I respected that and switched her back to her french link snaffle and her regular noseband which I leave loose for her. She immediately calmed down and went right into our workout, no tail swishing or head tossing.
In dressage, if the judge sees that the horse is not happy, by observing any or all of the things I mentioned above, you lose points on your test. They want a horse who respects her rider and is willingly doing the movements asked of her. So if she was being caused pain by the bit, she likely wouldn't be scoring very high, and we were Champion of our division in Eventing last year so I don't think that's the case ;)
Ok...so, one last thing...you think you know my horse better than I...fill out this questionnaire and see how many you actually get correct...
1. What is my mare's favorite food?
2. Where is her favorite spot to be scratched?
3. Does she like to be groomed?
4. How about when I have the equine masseuse come to give her an hour-long massage, a luxury I don't even give to myself?
5. What's her favorite thing to do within the three phases of Eventing?
6. What does she do when I make kissy noises to her out in the pasture?
7. What tricks does she know?
Go ahead and try to fill that in, I'll give you the answers when you're done ;)
I'll leave you with this final photo...my mare is my fur baby...she is a part of my family. We make a trip out to the barn each year in the dead of winter to make sure she is part of our family's Christmas photo. Do you still think I would do anything to cause her pain?