Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Greenville area / SC
That's terrible to hear - you pay for training and really not get what you paid for. BUT that was 4 years ago and it's what kind of work you've done with him in the last 4 that count at this point.
It sounds like you have a horse with no respect and is buddy sour besides. How I would start is by teaching him to lead and do it little by little away from his buddy.
When I have a horse that is disrespectful about leading I start by expecting him to lead and when he balks, I back him up then move him from side to side and start again. I will keep that up until he figures out that going forward is a lot less work then what happens if he doesn't.
Things don't change overnight, you will need to do this every single time you handle him. I would make it a point to work with him twice a day if possible. Working with him only once in while is really useless because he has been at this for too long. If you have him in a pasture and bring him in for feeding, that is a good time to start since he wants to go in the direction of the barn anyway.
If you have a round pen that would be a great way to work with him away from his buddy. He can only concentrate on you and that is a way to build respect and trust- a one on one. If you don't, then use a 20' lead line and work with him like he was in a round pen only attached to you.
It's easy to suggest a trainer but not having access to one either by finance or distance is understandable so you have to learn at the same time.
I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.
Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.
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