Ok, here's the backstory. I have a pony who used to be a little girls lesson pony at a local barn. He is hard in the mouth and dead on the sides. The mare I ride during my lesson is so sensitive and responsive. I have to have super soft hands and body. This has taught me so much in how to actually ride a horse. I want my pony to become responsive to soft cues. I don't want to yank on his head, and when I mean yank I mean YANK with his mouth gaping. I don't want to do this, I think its wrong. So I've been talking to my trainer and reading all I can about how to tech him to respond with softer cues. I've been using pressure and release, pumping with my hands/fighting my fingers on the reins to single which way, in addition to use leg and seat. We have made a few good steps with this. Lots of circles, 8s and serpitnes(sp) all with soft soft cues. So, here's the issue, I asked my boyfriend to hop on so I could see how my pony does from the ground with someone using leg pressure and poking with a crop on the girth area/where my leg would actually be. This is all to see how he is responding to leg pressure rather than yanking. But what my bf does is yank on the reins! I said wth are you doing? He said that's how you get a horse to turn. No no no. I've know my bf since we were kids ( we both are 21 now ) and the both of us have been around horses our whole life. He rides western and I ride english. So the question that I have is how can I explain to him that horses should work of off softer cues, ideally using the reins last. This is how I have been taught my whole life and he professes to tell me that im wrong. I want someone to be able to help me with my pony, I can't afford to pay my trainer to come out. I just don't know what to do, cut my boyfriend out of the process completely? Do it my way? Am I doing the right thing with this pony in the first place? Help!
Also pain has been ruled out for his unresponsiveness. He's teeth are good and everything has checked out. Posted via Mobile Device