So I think I found my horse! The lady who owns her desperately needs to get rid of her becuase she's getting divorced and she's losing her house and all that jazz. My riding instructor knows her and basically forced me to come with her to look at this horse.
She's (her name is Lacey) about 100 pounds overwieght, totally hot since she's an Arabian, and hadn't been ridden in 2 years but something about her just got to me. I think it's because she really reminds me of my love horse, a little POA that came to camp last year, crazy as can be, and through many hours of riding through spooks and bit changes (finally stopping at a rubber snaffle, he came in wearing a curb!) he has totally settled down and is now ridden by campers with no worries on my part at all. So this crazy horse calming thing is not something I've never done before and my instructor would be there to save me if I need it.
Evidentally Lacey has also been ridden in quite a few parades so she must be able to be calm enough for that. Basically her problems (we brought her and her best friend to camp on Tuesday so I could get to know her and start getting her healthy) are that she is really way to attached to her best friend horse, but I'm hoping that that'll go away once she settles in at camp, and that she gets way too excited on the trails. She's totally fine and serene in the arena so I'm thinking she's just never really been on a deep woods trail. Also, all her wieght seems to make it a wee bit difficult for her to balance herself correctly and the trails are not level so that could contribute to the issue.
She also gets really jumpy when someone gets on her back but that could be because of her weight since no saddle is really made to fit an obsenely obese horse.

I've been ridng her for 30 or less minutes a day in an English saddle (which is what she has always been ridden in) and a snaffle bit.
Any ideas about how to help her settle in and calm down? She wants to be calm, she just isn't sometimes...