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post #1 of 7 Old 01-13-2010, 05:24 PM Thread Starter
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How do you nicely tell a person they cannot buy your horse?

Title asks the question but I have a girl who is interested in my mare. YAY I think to myself so I tell her all about my mare and she says she is perfect for her herd. So I ask what do you plan on doing with her ect. She says possibly breeding and training.


This is a grade mare with bad conformation (she toes in pretty badly).I had told her she was grade and told her that she toes in in previous messages. So now that I know that this could be a possibility I do not want to sell her to this girl because I don't want another grade foal out there.

I should be grateful in this market someone wants her but I am not in a rush to sell her. I want her to go to the right place. Even if she says she wouldn't breed I still have to say no because I can't know for sure.

Anyway thoughts?
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post #2 of 7 Old 01-13-2010, 05:42 PM
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Maybe just say she is unfit for breeding. or you could fib a little and say she is physically unfit for breeding, would that count as lying??

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post #3 of 7 Old 01-13-2010, 05:49 PM
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It is your horse, you make the call.. however, once the mare is sold, you can not stop the person from breeding her.. I understand completely why you dont want her bred, and you are right, first there is no market whatsoever for the baby, second with so many animals not being cared for properly due to economy, winter etc. a responsible owner would not even think about breeding at this time. It would cost more in mare and foal care than what you would make when you sell the animal.. not a smart business move in any way.. and that is not to mention the bad confirmation she would pass on and no pedigree.. so i do understand completely what you are saying... We had a show pony once that we had up for sale, she was an excellent mare and we had won on her ALOT.. so these people wanted to buy her, they had the money, and had even made a small deposit on her for us to hold her, but as the process went they kept asking basically, " this is a machine right - she will definately beat so and so and so and so in classes right... now that mentality did not sit well with my mom, so she told the woman, she is not a machine, and yes my girls have beaten those people before, but this mare is a horse not a machine... and to you she is not for sale, and gave her the down payment back.. it ticked the lady off, she threatened to sue, but on what grounds? possession is 9/10 of the law and she had her deposit money back.. by the way we eventually sold her to another family who cleaned house with her too... I showed against that lady (who we didnt sell to ) with a different horse and beat her with that one too.. So I dont think she ever found her SHOWING Machine... but Misty got a much better home with kids who loved her.
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post #4 of 7 Old 01-13-2010, 06:01 PM
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I was selling a mare once, and a girl came out to see her, rode her around, and her dad said that they wanted her. Well seeing the girl riding my high strung 11 year old Thoroughbred, I could tell that there was no way it would be safe for this girl to have the horse, nor did I want to sell the horse to someone who might do the same thing to her that her previous owner had, letting her sit for a year because the daughter couldn't ride, then decided to sell her but needed her gone "now", so told us she was going to auction if we didn't buy her by the end of the week. Of course she turned out to be an awesome horse for me, but beside the point, so me and my dad talked, and my dad politely explained to the man that he wasn't sure that my horse would be the best fit for his daughter, being that my mare was sometimes unpredictable, and needed a more experienced rider, to make sure both horse and rider were safe. The man was thankful for our honesty, and they went elsewhere to find a horse, with no problems. I wouldn't want to jump into a "you aren't good enough for my horse" type of argument, but if you truly think that this won't be the best home for the horse, don't be afraid to just say that you don't think it would be a good fit, and if possible, point out another horse that might be a better fit for that person. Not that we want any more random horses being bred, but at least that way it puts her focus in another direction while you are telling her she basically can't have your horse.
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post #5 of 7 Old 01-13-2010, 06:34 PM
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Be frank with her. Tell her that you think she is unfit for breeding and you will niot sell to her if that is what she is wanting to do. Put it in the sale contract that the mare is not to be bred...

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post #6 of 7 Old 01-13-2010, 06:47 PM
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Just be honest with her. Tell her that you dont feel that she would be a good brood mare and give her the reasons why. Let her know that you dont want her to go to a home where she will be bred. You could possibly get a contract, but, I dont know...

Only sell to a person/party that you think your mare will get the best care and possible outlook on life. There is no reason why you have to sell her to this person. Just be honest, and go from there. Good luck!

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post #7 of 7 Old 01-17-2010, 11:08 PM Thread Starter
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I haven't heard from her so i am just going to leave it for now. If she does contact me I am just going to tell her that I don't think she is suited for what she wants.

Thanks for the advice!
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