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        10-30-2013, 08:48 AM
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    Foal
    How long do I wait for response?

    I made an offer to purchase a horse I am leasing last week. The seller said she would get back to me and let me know, but have not heard from her since. Technically my lease ends tomorrow unless we come to a further agreement. She told me a few weeks ago that she would type up a proposed lease agreement for me to review and see if I wanted to continue his lease. Nothing. I like the horse, so decided to make offer to buy. Nothing.

    I am tempted to just get a hold of her and tell her deals off. I will continue to look for something else to lease or buy. I have been paying board directly for the lease, so the barn owner keeps asking me if I have heard from her yet. I am sure they want to know who is paying them come Friday.

    I am kind of tired of dealing with her, I guess, and maybe just need to vent.
    What would you do in this situation? Keep trying to chase her down, or wash your hands of the whole deal?
         
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        10-30-2013, 08:50 AM
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    Trained
    I'd walk away. There are too many nice horses needing homes to mess around with someone who has no sense of urgency to either say yay or nay about what you've proposed. Not making a decision is still making a decision.
         
        10-30-2013, 09:08 AM
      #3
    Green Broke
    Are you that desperate for that particular horse? You know when the horse is right, because you get that special feeling and won't let go until you get it ;)

    BUT, if you are already thinking about moving on.. then do! There are so many horses out there, and someone wasting your time and money is not worth it.
         
        10-30-2013, 09:49 AM
      #4
    Foal
    That's the thing. I don't get that "feeling" that he is necessarily the right horse. My kids love him, my husband likes him well enough, my trainer thinks he would be a good fit for our family, my friends thinks he is great and perfect.
    Me, not so much.

    I left her a message this morning telling her I was not going to continue the lease nor purchase him. I am betting I will get a quick response now!
         
        10-30-2013, 09:54 AM
      #5
    Green Broke
    Doesn't matter what other people think.

    I very nearly ended up with a VERY wrong horse because everyone thought it was right for me. Went with my gut.

    There are SO many horses out there, and for good prices, don't settle for second best.
         
        10-31-2013, 05:47 PM
      #6
    Foal
    Well, as expected I got a response immediately and apologies for not getting back to me. She would still like me to purchase him if I change my mind.

    Been thinking a lot about it, and think the main reason I hesitate is because we had a bucking episode recently that shook my confidence with him a bit. I do take lessons and work with a trainer. So, other than that, he is still a horse that fits everything I have been looking for. Might still be a prospect, even though the owner is a bit difficult and slow to deal with.

    I also read some posts on finding the right horse, and although some say you just "know" when it's right, just as many say it sometimes takes a bit of time to really "click" and get to know each other. Maybe he and I just need a bit more time to figure each other out.
         
        10-31-2013, 05:52 PM
      #7
    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by 5kiddos    
    Well, as expected I got a response immediately and apologies for not getting back to me. She would still like me to purchase him if I change my mind.

    Been thinking a lot about it, and think the main reason I hesitate is because we had a bucking episode recently that shook my confidence with him a bit. I do take lessons and work with a trainer. So, other than that, he is still a horse that fits everything I have been looking for. Might still be a prospect, even though the owner is a bit difficult and slow to deal with.

    I also read some posts on finding the right horse, and although some say you just "know" when it's right, just as many say it sometimes takes a bit of time to really "click" and get to know each other. Maybe he and I just need a bit more time to figure each other out.
    At this point why rush into anything. You may want to lease him month to month see if the bucking is an issue and shop in the meantime. I would take some time before deciding.
         
        10-31-2013, 06:17 PM
      #8
    Trained
    If it makes you feel any better, my heart horse was a total psychopath for a year before I finally clicked with her.

    Is bucking a regular thing for him? Did you enjoy him before that?

    It's totally up to you, but if he has shaken you that much, maybe it's time to find something else.
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        10-31-2013, 07:34 PM
      #9
    Foal
    Actually, the bucking was totally out of character for him. Had chiro out to check him and his withers were locked up and he had a bit of a tender spot in his back. He got that straightened out. I don't really think it's something that will be an issue with him.
         
        11-02-2013, 01:24 PM
      #10
    Foal
    Leasing on a month-to-month basis sounds like a good suggestion. I too have been repeatedly told about how there are so many really good horses out there and for good prices. I have been looking for quite awhile now and have not experienced that.

    I'm sure it really depends on what you are looking for but I have found a lot of junk or horses that sound perfect in the write-up but you eventually find out they crib or can't be ridden at more than a walk, etc.

    Then there are the ones that really sound nice and they are sold before you even have a chance to inquire (within hours of the posting) and worse yet, are the ones that have been sold for months but the poster never bothered to remove the ad.

    It can take several hours a day searching on the internet, say nothing of driving 2-3 hrs one way to go looking only to find out in the first 5 minutes that it's not what you want. I think a more realistic comment might be that there are Some nice horses out there and that most really nice horses just aren't for sale - for that very reason.

    I don't mean to be a downer here but would just caution you to take your time to make a decision that feels right to you. If you think this one could be "the one", then maybe a little more time will help you to know for sure one way or the other.

    If, in the meantime, you decide to shop around, then at least you still have something to ride until you find something.
         

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