Hi everyone. This is my first post here, so let me give a little background. After a 10 year break (college, marriage, babies, etc.), I have returned to the horse world. I have a varied background in horses...have done a little bit of everything from western pleasure to hunter jumpers. I prefer English riding disciplines but find myself doing a lot of trail riding these days, which suits me just fine.
Now that my kids aren't babies anymore, I decided I couldn't be away from horses any longer. My husband was interested in learning to ride, and had never ridden before. We decided it was something we would do together, kind of like date night, but on horses! We found a horse for him first. To make a long story short, this horse turned out to be slightly more horse than he needed to be dealing with as a beginner. I stopped looking for a horse to suit me, and decided I'd just take his horse for myself, and we'd find him a better horse for him. We found him an awesome horse that has been great for him, and that has been a fantastic thing.
Now back to my horse. I didn't choose this horse with me in mind. He's bigger than what I would choose for starters, and very "westerny" in looks and movement. All that is ok and not too big a deal for me. However, for whatever reason, I have never clicked with this horse. It doesn't make sense to my husband and he is struggling to understand what I mean, but I think it takes a horse person to know what I am feeling. I like this horse ok. He's absolutely stunning to look at, and I always love the compliments I get about him. Most of the time he is lovely to ride and work with.
He's a total beta horse, always looking for an edge and a way out of work, and I find that I can't ever let things slide with him. I know we should never let things slide with our horses, but with this horse, an inch always equals a mile! I get tired sometimes of this, but again, not a total deal breaker.
Another big factor for me is that this horse is a very forward walker. When my husband and I trail ride together (or when I ride with just about anyone) I am always way out ahead. I am either stopping to wait up or circling back. This horse has a ground eating stride, and to be honest, I'd love it were it not for the fact that it makes a pleasant side by side ride almost impossible. When I do take this horse out on a solo ride, I love it!! He's got a go all day attitude and he has the most lovely expression. You can see that he enjoys being ridden out on the trails. But for the most part, I don't ride by myself and I find myself annoyed by the constant back tracking. We ride with walkie talkies now so we can talk.
I know to some people this seems like a no-brainer! Sell him and get something else. Right? Well...for me its not that simple. First and foremost when I take an animal on, whether it be a horse or cat or whatever, I feel like I'm making a commitment. I am concerned about finding him the kind of home that he deserves, and I am plagued with doubt about all the unknown factors that could arise after I sell him. Once he's out of my hands, anything could happen and that bothers me. I also truly detest the process of looking for another horse. I mean detest it. Part of me feels like it will be less stressful to keep this one and make do. We board so it is not possible to keep him and buy yet another horse, so I have to decide one way or the other.
The constant back and forth is driving me crazy, and I need to make a decision once and for all and then proceed. Period.
I am curious if others out there have any advice for me or can give me some new and different ways to approach this problem.
Sorry to be so wordy!!