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post #1 of 33 Old 06-05-2013, 02:53 PM Thread Starter
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Thinking the unthinkable, and what do you think?

I am really, like really down here at the moment, and looking at my horses wondering if I have the right ones.....I know we have visited this before, but I am now more ready in my own mind to make some changes, maybe.

Big Ben, is well up to my weight, basically placid, but likely to take extreme reactions to some things. He is a 10 year old baby, green as green as grass, I have to work the whole time I ride him, it is fun for a lesson, or when I feel like holding it together, but you can't just jump on and chill out you know.

Emmy, border line on weight carrying, has been well broke, very hot and reactive. Hasn't been ridden off of a perfectly groomed surface very often, she isn't relaxing to ride, but she knows her stuff, so it's different to riding Ben.

Wills, is just awesome, but I need to lose a bunch of weight to really enjoy her, which I'm now actually working on, instead of talking about.

If we were physically a match, I think Willow has it all, but she is never going to be a weight carrier, and I am never going to be a skinny minny, it just wont work long term, I can be a lot lighter than I currently am, but I can't make promises to myself that I will be able to work miracles, and especially not this summer.

I also have Cody, who is quiet and calm, but is currently out of action, and maybe not the best match physically either. He always was a project, the other three I am emotionally invested in, to various degrees, Cody, not so much.

Cookie break if you have made it this far.

What has really got me is that I got on a strange horse a couple of weeks back, and was within minutes loping around an arena, doing hard stops, and little spins, without a tinge of worry. I liked that feeling, I loved the reining manoeuvres, but more than that I just really enjoyed feeling confident and competent again.

So can I find that with any of my horses I wonder, or should I give up on someone and look at something like this guy?

What do you think of him? AGHHH all this has been brought to a head be a small melt down last night.

Thanks for reading.....

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post #2 of 33 Old 06-05-2013, 03:08 PM
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I like him!! Reminds me of Henry!!!

Forgot to add: nomnomnomnomnom!! Cupcakes! Cookies! Thanks!

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post #3 of 33 Old 06-05-2013, 03:14 PM
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GH, do you work with a coach or other impartial third party that can advise you?
I've been having the same thoughts with Ro - he's a fantastic horse, I just don't know if we are a match.
I worry about the "grass is greener" syndrome as well.
What I've kind if promised myself is I won't actively list him until I work with someone impartial and get their opinion. My friend has this dressage coach I want to work with and get her opinion.
Might be something to look at?
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post #4 of 33 Old 06-05-2013, 03:26 PM
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agree with the above post. An impartial, in person opinion would be best. In my opinion, If willow cant carry your weight, and you want to ride now, it might be best to sell her. If you don't want a green horse, sell ben. If you don't connect with cody, find him a new home. If its super stressful riding emmy, let her go.

I fought with more than one horse that I loved that was a stressful handful, one that was perfect for me but too small, and a couple that were perfect for me but we didn't fit together as a team. Now I have two horses that can carry me fine, excel at what I love to do, are not stressful and scary and I click with. I cant even tell you how nice it is.
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I will have to have a heart to heart with my trainer, she thinks that Ben is MY horse, that we will have a good partnership. She also did say that I would be crazy to sell Wills, because the look on my face when I rode her for a short while, is different to any other horse she has seen me on. She did actually say I could start doing short rides on her soon, as long as we are both working toward fitness, but it will take a 50 pound loss for me to be able to do anything I want on her. At the moment every time I am tempted I am asking myself "Do you want to eat that, or ride Wills?" and so far it is working.

Emmy I don't remember her mentioning, apart from OK'ing me to ride her, I haven't actually had a lesson on her yet, just an assessment ride.
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post #6 of 33 Old 06-05-2013, 04:50 PM
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I honestly do not know why you still have Cody. He seems the least one to fit into what you want.

I think you would regret selling Ben. With time I bet he will make you an excellent horse, especially with the help of your trainer.

I'm up in the air about the other two, but if you like Willow that much and she is helping you make better eating choices - sounds like a good keeper to me!

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Keep Ben, once he gets more miles he will be what you are pining for.

Willow is great, but think 2 years down the road. Are you still going to stop and go "eat that, or ride Willow?"

You have fun with Emmy, she is spirited but I suspect with time she will mellow out more once she is exposed to more outside the arena.

Cody, you need to sell. He isn't what you want and I don't think he will be.

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Yeah, Cody needs to go once sound again, he looks the part now, has weight and some muscle tone, but he is just sitting right now.

I guess that the money I could get from Cody would pay for Ben to go and get a month or two on him again, get some more apps installed so I can enjoy him more.
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I can so put myself in your shoes...I ended up with 14 horses at one time because of that lol.
Was it the thrill of riding an actual reiner which gave you the confidence? Are you willing to keep putting Wills above a Banana Split? Emmy will certainly calm down with regular work. Do you need a big, green horse?
All things to consider.
There's always the possibility to get Emmy and you trained together, while you're dropping that weight and get Willow conditioned.....
I'm no help....I'm guilty* goes to eat the cupcake*.
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post #10 of 33 Old 06-05-2013, 05:18 PM
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Don't mention cupcakes to me please
Theres a lot to be said for a horse that's 'ready to go' that you can hop on and have some fun with
I love Looby and I don't know what would happen to her if I let her go (well 99% sure I do know and that's the problem) she's a much better horse than she was but she still has her tantrums now and again and that does get me down even though she's pretty predictable - like yesterday she came out like she had a ferret up her bum so I knew there'd be fireworks and I thought 'I'm getting too old for this'
You need to do whats going to make you happiest
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