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post #1 of 10 Old 03-21-2007, 05:42 PM Thread Starter
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What if your barn doesn't have room to board?


ok i need some advice, again, the barn i ride at now, all the stalls are filled, so i cant board there i want a horse so bad! My parents are just like we cant do it now, we cant, thats all they say, but i am leasing a horse now im very very thankful, that i can atleast do that but ive been riding for my whole life, like when i started walking, ive grown up around them and rode english and im now riding western, i have alot of knowladge on horses, and know how to care for them. I talked to my mom about this horse i want (of course i say that about every horse i want :P ) and she says we dont have a place to keep it, , but im trying so hard to prove to her that we can find somewhere, and its not like she doesnt think ill take care of him/her, she just keeps bringing up about the bills. But we almost baught a horse this past x-mas! And we couldnt do it b/c of the vet check , i was so upset, but ever since than i cant get her back out there and make her relize that we cn do it, i have so many plans if we get a horse and alot of options for boarding, but when i tell her she listens but she just tells me the same thing over and over again "We can't do it". But i dont understand how we could have done it then, but not now?

im so confused and upset........all's i want is my own horse to grow with 2 of my friends already have one, and i get so jealous when i see them ride or talk about them. And i always say to myself why cant i have one, i was so close to getting one and it didnt work, and even my mom said "Well keep looking", and she said she would, but she hasn't yet.


sorry how long it is
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post #2 of 10 Old 03-23-2007, 05:50 PM Thread Starter
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hey guys is mine tuff to figur it out.....help please
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post #3 of 10 Old 03-24-2007, 05:06 AM
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:roll: Thats definatley a tough one!

If you dont mind me asking, how old are you?
Reason I ask is, couldn't you get a job at weekends or after school? To help pay towards his/her keep? Help at your local yard etc...
Do you have any other yards close by?
I dont know about over where you live, but here in the UK a vet check can be quite costly, and to learn a horse has failed, can kind of dampen anyone spirits. Maybe the cost of that and then it failing has put your parents off.
Only thing I could suggest for now is to sit and have a good chat with your folks. Ask them to explain their reasons why, and when you know and fully understand them, maybe then you can think of ways to change their minds.
Let us know when you've spoke to them and maybe we can think of ideas together?!?!
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post #4 of 10 Old 03-24-2007, 06:59 AM Thread Starter
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Great thanks! I have tried talking to them, but ill try again, o im 13. I had tried to work at my old barn, and worked there for 2 years, i could work at the barn i ride now, after school, and on weekends.

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post #5 of 10 Old 03-24-2007, 08:53 PM
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I would say it sounds like your parents are smart enough to know that they can not afford to take care of a horses needs the way they ought to be taken care of. Kudos to them for realizing this. I would wait until you are old enough to have a job, and then you can help your parents with the expense of horse care. I got my first job at 14, and I took care of my horse with my money. I spent my whole check on him. It was kinda funny actually. I had one horse, and enough horse tack for a whole barn full. Just be patient. Good things come to those who wait.
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post #6 of 10 Old 03-25-2007, 08:47 AM Thread Starter
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true ture. Maybe i can get a job to help out my parents on the boared or feed or so.


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post #7 of 10 Old 11-26-2007, 01:42 PM
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definately understand

I was the same way when I was your age and I didn't get to have one until I was 17. I couldn't understand why my parents said that either when i had been taking lessons since I was 10 and knew alot of stuff. When I finally got my horse I began to realize how big of a responsibility it was. Sometimes I would just get scared when she got cut or spooked and hurt herself because the vet bill can be the biggest upset. Aside from the regular shots and coggins test you have pay for its sometimes the fact that anything can happen. The horse could injure itself or in my horse judging days I learned it could just be the horses confirmation is not well and joints rub on joints and you never know until after you'd bought the horse that its going to have bad arthiritis. That happened to my best friends horse and she had to be put down because she ended up being in so much pain and we couldn't let her live in pain that bad. Then you have a huge vet bill because it costs to do procedures on a horse, a huge amount of $$$ sometimes. Anyhow I am sure you have thought about this a little but it has to be the first thing you think about. Because its never buying the horse, its the things that happen after that and no one can predict that. If there are thousands of dollars in the bank sitting there to be used for JUST the purpose of emergencies that might come up then I would say you have a good start to go ahead and buy a horse. As long as your sure you can keep those thousands in there and not touch it and its just for backup purposes. It took me a long time to figure that out but with all I've seen my best friend go through and just about bankrupt herself at 20, its totally worth it. Work hard, save up alot of money for just that reason along with a constant income coming in and you are ready to buy a horse or even two! The day will come and it will feel great:)

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post #8 of 10 Old 12-09-2007, 11:15 AM
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Perhaps last Christmas your parents were more financially secure, and after recent events, have found they don't feel secure enough to take on that investment.

Horses are a big investment, and I'm sure you know this already. Not only do you have to purchase the horse, but you will you have a farrier bills every few months, and then if you shoe your horse you have those extra expenses every 8 weeks, a vet bill, a board fee, tack and equipment, you have to purchase vet supplies like wraps and antibiotics, and general supplies you'd need such as heated water buckets for the winter and manure forks for mucking your stall if you are supposed to and you should always keep quite a few extra hundred dollars to fall back on if your horse gets injured since accidents happen. Also if you plan on showing, your going to have to expect another set of show tack and apparel and much more.

Keeping those expenses in mind, perhaps now they aren't as financially secure to know they could afford all of those things like the could last Christmas.

They aren't saying no because they want to, like all parents, they want nothing more than to see their children happy and they are probably trying to save up to afford the horse without any worries. I say be patient, and throw in a hand. It might only be a week, but it might be a few months before they think they're ready. Pressuring the issue will only make them feel more stressed. They know you want a horse, and they are trying to make things happen without letting their money sink too low.

I started asking for my first horse when I was13. I just got him at 16 and I had to buy him myself. Patience is key. Be patient, and help out, they'll see your responsible, willing to help, and many more things that will push them toward getting the horse. Help out around the house when you can, pick up the floor, make your bed, put the dishes away whatever as a kind of quiet insistence. If you do that already, look toward that job at your stable. Any money will help I'm sure.
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post #9 of 10 Old 12-09-2007, 11:23 AM
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I come from a family of musicians, and we have never had a lot of money. I always loved horses, managed to start taking riding lessons when I was 6, and wished for a horse of my own every xmas and birthday. It wasn't until I was 15, got a job, bought my horse myself, bought everything else for my horse, payed his board by myself, payed his vet and farrier by myself that I got a horse of my own. Sometimes that's just the way it goes I have to say though that I appreciate the experience a lot more than I would have if my parents bought him for me, because it's MY money right there and I have to make good decisions.
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post #10 of 10 Old 12-10-2007, 10:14 AM
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omg ditto! :P my parents wont let me have one and ive been riding for 4 years now. try loaning one for a few weeks, find a reasonable priced livery, aand loan the horse for about...3 weeks. show your mom your ready! dont mention buying, not just yet. find a horse you want to buy then ask the seller if its ok to have a week or two trial, just to try him out. then prove to your mom your ready.

you and me both! lol
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