Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: A small town in NY
• Horses: 0
I appreciate everyone continuing to post but there's no need to argue about why I'm not better after three years. Here are the reasons:
To be clear, I am NOT a natural. Like bsms, I have had to work (harder, than it seems, anyone else has to) to just be where I am now. I've watched 8 year old riders (I'm in my mid teens for reference) under my instructor develop a strong seat, be able to pick up the correct trotting diagonal, and begin to jump in no time at all. She has a show team full of riders that she has trained from beginners to jumpers who bring home armloads of blues every weekend. So it isn't her instruction - it's me.
Also, I can't blame any of the horses I ride (and I've ridden old and young lesson horses, ex-barrel racers, ex-reiners, ex-racehorses, ex-pacers, ex-jumpers, ex-show horses, backyard pets, rescue horses, draft horses, and even a mule) - they are so different and I still can't ride any of them with skill :) many of them have in fact given me confidence to get me here now. I also can't blame the ladies I ride with at my other barn. The reason I still ride crappily is me.
Do I wonder sometimes why I don't progress faster? Why I'm not stronger and able to balance better? Why little kids can outride me after three years? I wonder if I take more lessons, will I suddenly be able to have a perfect, secure seat and have no fears? Sure. But pointing fingers, blame shifting, and wondering why I can't isn't going to make me a better rider.
I really don't want to offend anyone - you're all here to help me and for that I'm extremely grateful :)
Tnavas, I truly do appreciate your concern about my instruction and your suggestions about possibly taking lessons elsewhere. Sometimes I do ride with another instructor at my other barn and she has never commented on how long I've ridden for and that I still can't canter proficiently. I do wonder sometimes why I am not a better rider, but I can't credit my instructor for it.
The only person to blame is me.
A horse is a mirror to your soul. And sometimes you may not like what you see. - Buck Brannaman