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post #11 of 14 Old 08-10-2013, 04:35 PM
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I rode this conemerra pony for a while back when I was still taking constant lessons. I loved him to death, but I've never gotten along well with pony's. He and I were doing great for a time, and then he started to take advantage of my weaknesses. In a bad way. I started to get really frustrated and disheartened, and I felt like I was a terrible rider.

I talked to my instructor at the time, and we had me riding different horses for a while. We were able to focus on my weak areas on horses that were better matched. I later went back to the conemera pony, and while he was still a challenge to ride, we had MUCH better rides. I had built up my weak areas enough that I could start to take control back.

The conemera was great for me because he pushed me. We didn't click, and we often times butted heads, but he taught me a LOT. We have different horses in our lives to learn different things. In my case, he was pushing me to a level I wasn't ready for and wasn't going to be able to learn on him. He needed me to be better, and I just wasn't there yet.

I'd definitely talk to your trainer and see if you can't work with some other horses for a short time. Taking a break from the connemera helped lift my spirits as I found that I really wasn't a bad rider, I was just in a rut. The change in mindset was equally as helpful when I went back to riding him as what I'd learned during that time. The worse off you will feel each time you have a ride that doesn't go well will just make you more frustrated. The more frustrated you feel will just transfer to the horse and make it worse.

I'd venture to say you're probably a great rider, but that you may not be ready for this horse just yet. I may have something to do with the more advanced level, and it may not. The connemera pony was a beginner/intermediate horse whose skills matched mine well, so it wasn't that he was too advanced for me. I just wasn't ready to learn those lessons from him yet.

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post #12 of 14 Old 08-10-2013, 06:13 PM Thread Starter
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it's literately nothing i'm doing wrong. I have worked with her and my instructor for about 6 weeks and sometimes she ok others no luck. even having other people try to figure it out. bottom line there was no reason for her to be acting as she was. even tried having my instructor use a ground whip to encourage her. horse tries to kick her in protest haha. but after having multiple opinions there was really nothing i was doing wrong, though she is one of the most fussy stubborn mares you'll ever meet. she gives a lot of people bad attitude. guess she simply doesn't like me. oh well there are others i ride so just have to give up
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post #13 of 14 Old 08-10-2013, 06:28 PM
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it's literately nothing i'm doing wrong. I have worked with her and my instructor for about 6 weeks and sometimes she ok others no luck. even having other people try to figure it out. bottom line there was no reason for her to be acting as she was. even tried having my instructor use a ground whip to encourage her. horse tries to kick her in protest haha. but after having multiple opinions there was really nothing i was doing wrong, though she is one of the most fussy stubborn mares you'll ever meet. she gives a lot of people bad attitude. guess she simply doesn't like me. oh well there are others i ride so just have to give up
Hate to say it, but there's always a reason. Some instructors can't, or aren't as able, to see subtle differences.
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post #14 of 14 Old 08-10-2013, 11:22 PM Thread Starter
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I don't have a video, and it's not just me she gives a lot of people attitude and iv had several opinions. the fact that 100% there is something wrong isn't always true. Some horses just don't like some people. they arn't machines it's not garenteed you are gonna get them to do what they are told no matter how correct you are. some are just like that. She's only been a lesson horse for less than 1/2 year. before that lived in a paddock doing no work for years, we (as in the barn) just think she hates being a lesson horse with so many riders. Some just don't like certain people for god knows why. But we can tell it's nothing i'm doing wrong and it's not like i'm the only one she has issues with. finally after several weeks of working with her conclude there's nothing more i can change. BUUUT it's not just me, she give this attitude to a lot of people, even those more experienced. she's really picky and fussy, more so than even an advanced horse should be..
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