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post #1 of 14 Old 03-10-2014, 01:29 PM Thread Starter
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Moms of young riders

I remember when I was a young rider, my mom (who had no experience with horses) was always a nervous wreck watching me jump. I've always assumed that since I rode my whole life, I would not be like that with my children. Fast forward 20 years and I am What is the best way to control that ? My daughter is always in a safe position, her dad coaches her, she rides trained horses but again, knowing horses, you never know, accidents happen etc..
I recently witnessed another child's bad fall which resulted in a major concussion, rider had to be hospitalised and since then I am the nervous wreck... I need input !
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post #2 of 14 Old 03-10-2014, 01:40 PM
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Things happen, I had a concussion a few times when I was young, once on a Bicycle and once playing Basketball.

Never had one on a Horse... knock on wood

You just have to rely on good training for the Horse and your Daughter and make sure she wears a helmet.

Parents tend to worry too much, but it is their job


May all your Trails be happy and safe ones

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post #3 of 14 Old 03-10-2014, 02:18 PM
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Haha, my mom was the same way. She's a wreck watching me ride, let alone jump xD

I think (though I am not a parent) that the best thing to remember would be... life is a hazard. xD You could fall and crack open your skull walking down the street. Just breathe and relax (:

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post #4 of 14 Old 03-10-2014, 02:43 PM
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i'm going to be teaching my kiddo to ride this spring/summer on my steady Eddie gelding, so i can't say i'm ready to post as a mom of a young rider quite yet, but i may be back to this thread some day, lol.
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post #5 of 14 Old 03-10-2014, 03:23 PM
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Welcome to the worried mom's club. I have five kids and regardless of what sport or activity they are doing your going to worry, it comes with the parent title. Riding horses is a high risk activity for any one of any age, as parents we access the risk and then make sure our kids are as safe as they can be but accidents happen. Falling off is part of riding horses; helmets, broke horses and good instructors minimize the risk but you will never eliminate it, you have to accept it.

To curb my anxiety I have had to stop thinking about worse case scenarios, I just don't let them into my head any more. When I start feeling anxious I take a breath replace the thought with the exact opposite thought, it works for me. But you will never stop worrying about your child, it's what makes you a great mom.

Cheers to all the great moms who sit on the side of the arena and hold our breath watching our kids go over jumps, race around barrels, chase cows and when they fall off brush the dirt off dry the tears and watch them do it all over again.
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post #6 of 14 Old 03-10-2014, 07:58 PM
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It is NORMAL to worry about your child riding.

My daughter is 20 and been riding for 11 years. I am a wreck when she has to relearn a new horse. She is confident more in the saddle than on the ground so I do worry. My husband just bought his first horse so now I am REALLY nervous because I feel I have to take care of them both. And this is my first time I have a green young I have a lot on my plate.

And it doesn't end with horses.....Good luck! I feel for you!
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post #7 of 14 Old 03-11-2014, 07:25 PM
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My younger two (10 and 11) ride, and it is definitely sometimes nerve-wracking watching them ride. I'm pretty cautious about what horses they ride and having them be supervised, but of course one time I left the indoor arena as my youngest was finishing her ride and the horse took off at a trot just as she was going to dismount (she was riding bareback), and as soon as I heard noise I rushed back in to find her hanging off the side of the horse, with my other daughter holding the reins and the silly mare standing there like, 'what happened?' - yikes! She was fine and of course always rides wearing a helmet. Knowing all the things that can go wrong with horses will drive a mother nuts. Of course, there are so many things in life to worry about when you are a parent. My oldest (15) is learning how to drive, and THAT is making me really nervous, too. I have no advice, only sympathy. This is one of my favorite quotes about being a parent:

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone
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post #8 of 14 Old 03-11-2014, 07:56 PM
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I don't have kids (and if I do it won't be for quite some time) but I understand the worry that a mom has. My mom has often mentioned that she's glad I don't jump because of the risk. The one time I fell off she was a mess. The actual version of the story went like this: I was warming my horse up, he gave a couple of good bucks, I fell off, and got back on.

If you hear my mom tell it today it goes something like this: I was sitting in the car minding my own business when I looked up and that insane animal was bucking like crazy and threw me off like a limp ragdoll. She was lying there motionless when I came racing up, and I'm pretty sure she had a concussion. She was terrified to get back on, but the barn owner FORCED her to! I was about ready to sell that horse!

My brother has gotten at least one actual concussion during basketball games and my mom wasn't nearly as upset as when I fell off and was just fine. It's just a mom and daughter thing. The best thing that you can do is let your little rider be a little rider. Make sure she doesn't do anything stupid on horseback, and always have her wear a helmet.
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post #9 of 14 Old 03-29-2014, 07:58 PM
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I love my mother, she is not a horse person. So she trusts my trainer, if she felt that it was an incredible risk she may do something though she has never admitted to not wanting me to ride a horse or jump or anything like that.
You have to trust the trainer. It is scary to watch little kids ride and I am a teenager! Stuff happens around horses and as my instructor always says "the only way to not fall off a horse is to not ride one"
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post #10 of 14 Old 04-09-2014, 11:55 AM
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hahaha my mom took lessons with hap hansen as a girl and would jump her horse buck over a 6 ft fence just for fun, but when i jumped my horse 2'6" she would freak out lol. even now that ill be 30 in july and my job is to train and break horses, every time i go home for a visit she wont let me ride my friends crazy energetic horse because i might fall and then get trampled and ill go into a coma and die and then my husband will be a single dad and then my boys will want to ride like mommy used too and then theyll die and my husband will be by himself and then he will be sad and develop a drinking problem and go out one night and crash the car into a tree. before you ask, yes she really said that lol. my kids are still young and in that stage where theyre scared to death of heights so i dont have to worry about them riding yet, but im pretty sure i will be exactly like my mom when the time comes lol. i think sometimes we just love someone so much that we have to protect them because losing them would mean losing ourselves
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