Our trainer does a very good job at explaining how they are being judged and I've learned a lot over the years about riding in general. I'm at almost every lesson, and she does a great job of giving feedback to kids and parents. Her pony is still green and just will never win under saddle. But we don't care about all that. We love him and he's great for us for now (we lease). And especially at the schooling shows, there are a lot of inconsistencies with judging. but again, we dont care. She would love to get blue every time, but it does not matter. I am just questioning showing versus not showing. Is the cost worth the benefit? When I had my revelation at the last horse show, I talked to my husband (who wasn't at the show). He thinks a couple a season would be good, but not every show is necessary. Allie said she likes showing but she doesn't have to do them all the time. So I feel like we are finding a compromise, which feels good. It's easy to be swept into it though. There is one girl at the barn who is all about competing, winning, riding the best horse, and all that. I feel like she is lost in all that and then doesn't focus on the horse being a living animal to bond with and enjoy. Allie likes to just tool around with her pony. Not every time she saddles up has to be better than the last. She just enjoys him. And I want her to know that that's ok too. And I want to encourage that. I don't know. Maybe it's because I'm not competitive by nature. But thanks for the book recommendation. I might pick it up just to get better informed.