Originally Posted by DarkEquine
Man, I wish I could ride bareback. In fact, I wish that I could trust a horse enough to gallop on them. But I'm too much of a wuss! Well done! Were you feeling brave that day, or what! Lol
Oh you should have talked to me 5 months ago, before I ever started jumping or anything! I had a few spooky moments with Sandie because I just got her and she was still learning to trust me (and I, her)...I was scared to death of even WALKING with her! I would NEVER have imagined riding bareback, jumping, etc with any horse, least of all her!
Then one day, something spooked her but instead of bolting and bucking me off, she just shyed a little...my confidence slowly came back, and one day we decided to start jumping...then I learned to trot bareback...and it goes on from there. With every good ride, I gain more confidence back, and she trusts me now, which makes things MUCH easier! So now I tend to just take set backs in stride and don't let them be set backs for us, just chalk it up to a mistake or a bad day.
I've also learned that if I blame myself for any mistakes, I can just work on correcting things myself versus just saying "oh she's just a spooky horse so I can't ride her bareback" which is what I used to think about her. A wise person (ahem, MIEventer!) once told me "A good rider blames themselves and a poor rider blames their horse"