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post #1 of 6 Old 12-02-2012, 01:55 PM Thread Starter
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So this summer I had a pretty bad fall and broke my arm at camp. Ever since then while I am riding at home I am scared to jump that high (around 2 ft). I ride in a group, on a variety of horses, and I need to get over it!!!!!!!

I especially get scared when I am on a horse that doesn't always refuse, but does so occasionally, rather than one that tends to try to refuse all the time. I think this is because of some sort of trust thing... (???????????????)

Any ideas to help me?
If you answer mine I'll look at yours :)
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post #2 of 6 Old 12-03-2012, 11:16 AM
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It is hard to come back from a bad fall. Unfortunately I do not think I can give you a quick fix answer. The best thing to do is to ride horses for a bit that you trust and will more or less "take care of you" over fences. You will have to push yourself to over come the fear. Try the book That Winning Feeling. I used some of those techniques.
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post #3 of 6 Old 12-04-2012, 04:32 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about your injury! I understand how scary it can be after a bad fall.

If 2' jumps are scary, then don't do it. Ask your instructor if you can work on some smaller jumps to get your confidence back. She should understand and be happy to let you step back for a little while until you're back to where you were. There's nothing wrong with that.

If I were you, I would start with some trot poles and then maybe cantering a single pole on the ground. Once you're comfortable with both of those, start trotting a very small crossrail. Keep doing that crossrail at a trot until you're as comfortable as doing trot poles before you raise it. It may take several lessons before you're comfortable raising it, and that's totally okay. And then just raise the jump gradually as you become comfortable with each jump and height. It may take a few weeks, or it may take a few months, but eventually you'll be back at 2' and you'll discover you're not so scared.

Good luck!
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post #4 of 6 Old 12-08-2012, 01:00 PM
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Anyone who gets on a horse can expect to fall. Of all falls very little - other than pride is hurt! Occasionally it comes to something more.

No one can get you over your worries except you!
It is up to you to be determined to get over thinking about falling - think that way and you will bite the dust.
I was always taught that you throw your heart over the fence and the horse will follow. It is true, if you are determined then the horse will jump it.

The fact that you say you would rather ride a horse that you know will refuse on a regular basis tells me that you are not riding into your fences but allowing the horse to carry you.
You have to ride every fence, on every horse as if it is going to refuse.

One thing I do dislike about the way people are taught to jump in the USA is to maintain the two point position throughout the jump, the approach the rider should be sitting up and using legs and seat, at take off they go into a forward position, slightly more forward whilst the horse is in the air and then sitting down as the horse lands and is going away from the fence.
If you are to forward going into the fence and a horse does refuse then you are already halfway off - ditto should he stumble on landing.

Watch videos on Youtube of event rider cross country and see just how far they lean back on landing and see how they have their seats in the saddle going into a fence.

Be determined and you will get over your worries.
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post #5 of 6 Old 12-09-2012, 07:31 PM
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i would jump smaller fences till you are so bored of it you WANT to jump 2ft. once you have enough positive experiences, you wont remember the one bad one.

you can also think of it as doing it for the horse. you dont want to worry the horse or give them a bad experience, so you have to step up and at least fake confidence =]

just my 2c, good luck =]

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post #6 of 6 Old 12-23-2012, 08:28 PM
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I agree with the first two responses, because my instructor first suggestion is to always to get back on. Not necessarily to do what I did when I fell, but to give me no time to make me think of what happen.
Once I get back on, my instructor tell me what I did wrong or she tell me that it was not my fault. Next, I start from the begin (starting from the walk. Then, trot and so and so) to build back my confidence.

If I was you, I would tell my instructor that I am still a little shaky when you jump around 2 feet. (their nothing wrong with that.)

Maybe your instructor will have some exercises to help you build your confidence?

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