critiqe my jumping

To put it simply OP, I don't believe you. Horses cannot use their necks effectively if you are not giving a release. Period. It's easy to tell yourself that they can, and believe that the way you are doing it is 'the right way' but it isn't, you are putting you and your horse in a dangerous position by not allowing him to use his neck the jumps. You are putting yourself in a dangerous position with the rest of your position over fences, and I suggest you take the other posters' advice.

Quick questions, how long have you been doing those exercises? How long had you been doing them before this show?

If you can never jump well, then you shouldn't be jumping. Period. Get a new trainer, get your flatwork mastered, then start over little bitty crossrails. Just start completely over. By trying to continue to fix all of these problems while still trying to jump at this height, you are worsening yourself. You have proven you can't jump this height - go back to basics. It's nothing to be ashamed of, MANY people find themselves in your shoes. It's because of trainers rushing their students just to keep their pay, but that's a whole different thread. So just please, find yourself a new trainer, find yourself away from the jumps, and learn :)

Can you post videos of you jumping? Videos of flatwork? Pictures of flatwork?

EDIT:
From another thread -
Ahh, so you have the videos of him jumping the height another poster previously inquired? Yes, I'd LOVE to see that!

I'm going to go off topic a little if I may, and ask Sj1289 about her move to NY in a few weeks. Will you be able to continue to ride? Maybe bring your horse with you?

I agree, how long have you been doing gymnastics/no hands/stirrups work and been studying george morris and other pro-riders? There is a right way and a wrong way to do all these things, it is important that you are building a proper foundation if you want to be jumping and showing.
Also if you have more recent pictures, that can be helpful in critiquing as well.

I would honestly get a new trainer if I were you. It's always hard because you build a safety net after training at once place for a long time and you don't want to leave, but I went through the same thing. I felt like I wasn't improving at my previous barn and they were just having me jump my green over fences Arab with no mouth contact while he constantly ran off with me. I finally found a new trainer who took me back to basics; I was jumping for 5 years at my old barn, and now I haven't jumped in 3 months. But it's what my horse and I need to be safe. I just don't see how your trainer can you let you be jumping that high; I'm not trying to offend you, but it's just not a safe thing to do =/

Dosent matter what you guys say I had to sell him because I moved and by I never jump well I meant by my eq okay and all you people who say you shoudent be jumping your horse shoudent be jumping my question for you does he look unhappy and thoose people who said it was to good to be true on my other post your just jealous that I can train a horse better then you

...You posted asking for critiques. And that's what you got. If all you wanted were puppies and rainbows and unicorns, then you should not have asked for a critique. People offered constructive criticism and ways you could improve your position and therefore help your horse. That's exactly what a critique is. Your descriptions of your super horse did not match the photos... it's not about jealousy of your training. I'm sorry, but that is utterly laughable that you would say something so ridiculous.

Sorry no one said you're perfect. None of us are perfect. We just get better when people offer good advice and we take that advice and learn from it. And by refusing to believe that you need improvement, you're doing yourself and your horses a disservice and you will never become a better rider.

I feel sorry that you had to sell your horse, that's never an easy thing to do. And I hate to say it, but nobody's jealous of your "training". This forum is friendly and if you're doing something right and doing it well, everyone is more than willing to tell you; and I'm surprised you and your horse didn't get severely hurt from the way you both were jumping. You asked for critique and that is what you were given, and nobody was rude about it. If you ask for critique and really want to improve yourself and your horse, you take it to heart and you do it. Were you just expecting everyone to say "No critique, you and your horse are perfect!"? Because nobody is and there is ALWAYS critique. Everyone's comments were just looking out for you and trying to help, like you asked for.

I did't say no critiqe what I meant is what you guys told me I tried before and it it did not work. I used to lease a pony that was perfect so I did a creast release on him but on cole it just does not work. I'm sorry if I offended anyone but I think the way I trained him wasent bad for a kid