Do you ever just want to tell the other riders at your barn to shut their mouths? If they are not going to give helpful advise, then don't say anything.
I have been working on low jumps with my horse since April. Usually 18-24" cross rails and low verticals (less than 12"). I have slowly been increasing the height of his jumps all crossrails at 24" on the standard (which I measure in the center to right at my knee).
So everything else in the jumping arena I had set up as a cross rail or small vertical. I had one gate set up and it was right at my knee (maybe 18") so he should be able to clear it no problem. He had never jumped it before though so I let him walk up to it and check it out.
We do the whole course clear and get to the gate, I ride him up to it at a steady trot, straight on. He slams on the breaks and slides about a foot and stops right in front of it. OK. So I then make him jump it from a stand still since it's low enough and he needs to know that is not acceptable. He jumped it, but his toes barely caught it, and we went and did the cross rail 6 strides after it to finish the course. - side note- he usually runs out if he doesn't want to do something not slam on the brakes. I have been working on this, since it's my fault for letting him do so.
Anyways I was bragging on him for doing so well, and then told *other rider* that he wouldn't jump the gate though, but he never had done it before so it wasn't that big of a deal. She responded well he wouldn't jump it because he doesn't know what he is doing. She pretty much says this about everything I do with my horse. She never says I don't know what I'm doing, but always says "he doesn't know what he is doing".
I wish she would just shut her mouth, if she isn't going to give me advice on how to help him, don't just say he doesn't know what he is doing.
I'm working on jumping and dressage with him so he will know what he is doing. There's one good way to figure out how to do something and that is to do it.
I took 4 years of jumping lessons in high school, and I have had 3 years of dressage in college. My dressage trainer comes out every couple of weeks and I have a new jumping trainer that I'm going to start working with after new years.
I'm just ranting. I wish instead of saying he doesn't know what he is doing she would say, well try more leg up to the gate next time or I'll come watch you to see what he is doing, or something. If she would say well try "blah blah blah" I would be happy, but it's just negative. I don't think she would say "you don't know what you're doing" but sometimes I think that is what she is trying to get across.
I'm just mad. Haha.
So what can I do to get my horse over the gate gracefully? I'm trying to think of ways to disguise it. Maybe put cross rails so they are set in the center to the height of the gate. Haha it would be like a filled in cross rail of sorts.