Originally Posted by donatellodemerlieux
I'm not saying that I'm a perfect rider; nobody is. BUT he refused because he had never dealt with that type of jump, with plants/fillers under it, (as well as nerves from being away from home) so we went home and practiced makeshift 'scary' jumps. By saying I jumped 4', I meant I do know how to jump and its not like its personally MY first time jumping 2'6. I guess saying that really didnt matter.
You asked for help and ideas. Every idea that is offered you tell us how we are all wrong.
Do you really want help and ideas?
There are a lot of nuances that a rider can do that affect the horse, as any rider knows. These can be amplified when the rider and horse are in a different situation. Something the rider does that makes it more difficult for the horse to jump the horse might ignore at home. When in a more stressful location the horse might find the rider in the way enough to not go over the jump.
I suggest you skip a show or two and hire a trainer. In the long run the trainer will allow you and your horse to enjoy each other more and the shows you do in the future will be less stressful.