Okay, first of all, the entire point of me starting this thread was asking why he couldn't clear 2'6. I guess mentioning the fact that he refused at a show was a mistake, because it didn't have anything to do with anything.
I already said I cannot hire a trainer without being tight on money. In the case of emergency, that could be extremely bad. The only reason I can do shows is that I am sponsored by my family and friends. Almost everything in shows is paid for me, I pay for anything else contending to my horse, including trainers. I came to you guys because it is a free form of 'help'
The only reason I became so offensive was because nearly everyone on this site has become disrespectful. It doesnt help, it just makes people mad and defensive like me. I may have over done it on this thread, and I apologize. When I turned down ideas, I was just explaining why I already knew they didnt work. I actually did try some of them, and they just didnt work. The fillers did, and that's all I really needed to know.
Thanks for the ones of you that really did try to help, I no longer need help on this thread.
Eventing: the only sport where you wear your medical information strapped to your arm.