Marrah - listen up, Girly.
That horse of yours... he's an angel for not tossing your butt on the dirt, Missy.
You better thank your lucky stars he's been so patient. The BEST way you can thank him - give him a break! Take that nasty bit out of his mouth! Quit YANKING on him! Quit asking him to GUIDE YOU THROUGH THINGS THAT YOU AS A RIDER ARE NOT READY TO DO! He is doing his very best for you - and for that, he deserves not to be assaulted in the mouth every move he makes.
You are asking your horse to jump when you as a rider are not able to support him. You are asking him to run a pattern when you as a rider and not able to direct him. He has taken the direction into his own hands the best way he knows how. But, honey, he's only a horse. A young horse. A green horse.
He clearly cares about you, or he'd have tossed your bum on the arena floor a long time ago.
And I KNOW you care about him. ALL we ever hear is "Rowdy this, Rowdy that, I love Rowdy!" But SHOW us! Take our advice! Show us that you can put Rowdy's well-being before yourself. Show us that you can sacrifice your own fun for the over all good of your horse. Show us that you can exhibit the patience and compassion to be a horse owner.
You have TOLD us so many things. But you haven't shown us one of them. You continue to yank on his mouth, slam up and down on his back, and then blame him when does not do what you wish he would.
He is a horse, and as riders, we must understand that we are asking so much of our horses by even asking them to trust us. To halter them. To lead them. Let alone ride them. They are flight animals. They do not naturally trust. They are prey animals. We must EARN their trust, and we must EARN their respect.
He carts you around and lets you indulge in your play time.
Give that boy a break. Find a trainer or sell him to someone who will devote the time, effort, patience, and compassion that he deserves.
We know you love him. You are a horse girl, it is in your blood to love him. Show him that, and show us that.