So I was in my lesson and my horse was jumping great we were jumping 2'-2'6 and he was doing awesome! Then my trainer made an oxer, and it was sorta my horse's first time and last time he jumped one he refused. So it looked as if he was going to jump it and then he refused.
He kept refusing and I lost my confidence, and we had to follow my friends horse over a staight,(because I landed on the jump and broke the cups) and he almost refused that too but didnt.
So im just eh now, Im afraid he will get on a refusing spree, I did not get physically hurt, just mentally if that makes sense. I don't know why I'm afraid. Any advice? Has this happened to you? What did you do to build your horses and your confidence back?
Thanks :) I plan to jump a little lower and free jump him oxers instead.