I agree that too many riders out there are falling into the trap that everything must be done in a certain time frame... I find those who coach/teach one on one dont end up rushing the rider, like they would in a lesson size say eight-twelve horses. Over here in NZ I went to a riding school as a kid where these large numbers were the case. I find they couldn't really work on the individual per say, although we did all learn and get advice, I find that by the time you've spent five minutes on one person you've gotta move onto the next.
I went over my first pole on my first ride -ever-... I also trotted.
I went over my first cavaletti I believe a month later (I was led). By the end of the first two months of riding I was walking, trotting and cantering and taking my trusty palomino friend Sunny over all the cavaletti heights.
Looking back on it, I realise I could have a better, more balanced style now if I hadn't of learnt so many ways to lack. I don't regret my early riding training, I was a kid, I had fun with all my friends, and always rode the more difficult horses, so I do believe that made me a better rider anyway. However now as I have three horses of my own and getting private instruction, I realise how much further I'd be along had I had more training in the earlier days.
I don't jump now... I'm too scared to. I'm not really sure why, I think its because both my riding horses are still learning... and I feel like I don't have the balance to jump these days. I have turned into a nervous rider from my past experiences too, but am pushing past that slowly.
I think it's important to not rush things... you've got the time. There's no need to be out competiting immediately or doing all the things your friends can. I prefer to have my horses going exceptionally well at home and then take them out... instead of rushing and then creating another bad experience.
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