Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: An English Girl living in beautiful Alberta, Canada
• Horses: 0
If you can, go and have a lesson on a schoolmaster that you can trust not to refuse. Then you can keep that memory in your mind - how you rode, and how it felt. Use that to 'over-write' the refusal story that your mind keeps replaying.
Also, do you have a confident friend, or an instructor that can jump your horse with you watching? It is very useful to see your horse do the bigger jumps so that you KNOW consciously and sub-consciously that he can and will do it.
Then with all this to back you up, do the exercises that the others have described with the goal of you being in charge. Don't attempt the bigger jumps until you are confident that your determination will overcome your nerves.
Get up, get going, seize the day. Enjoy the sunshine, the rain, cloudy days, snowstorms, and thunder. Getting on your horse is always worth the effort.