First of all a huge THANK YOU to everyone who provided advice. I am soo sorry I have not been writing back to all your comments... I have been ridiculously busy with midterms coming up!! AUGGHH MIDTERMS SUCK! Anywayys things have been getting a lot better. I'm finding that if I take a strong feel on his mouth on the approach, I can sort of collect him beneath me and it's so much easier to see my spot. I feel like the more collected I am, the more options I have as far as getting close to the jump vs. taking it long goes... anyways thanks soo much for the tips.
Every ride, good or bad, teaches you something new.