NJ- it's not necessarily a "toe" issue, as it is an entire leg issue. If your toes are out, your entire leg is most likely not in the best place. There is a particular position where you will be the most balanced and secure, while being in a place to use your body the most effectively. For a few people it is physically impossible, For some it's physically really difficult, for lots it's completely unnatural, but can be taught. I used to have the habit of riding off the back of my calf. I was pretty good at it. Pretty secure and got a decent response from my horses. It felt horrid to change my leg, but the trainer I was working with made me. After lots and LOTS of work, my leg is in a better place and it's even more secure then it used to be.