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post #1 of 17 Old 10-09-2011, 12:16 PM Thread Starter
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Today I had a lesson like always. But, I got there and found out that there was a jumping clinic going on. So, we had to move outside. We go outside and it was to muddy (why the clinic was moved inside), so we started out there. The only thing is that the outdoor arena is right in front of Bee's paddock. So, she was getting really fussy because her friends eat breakfast at that time. When we went to trot, she tried to buck and go over and eat the weeds... We moved inside.
We get inside and go into the back of the arena so we wouldn't get in the way of the clinic. I am not used to riding in a group at all, so having two other horses in the arena jumping about six inches to a foot higher then me was scary. I felt like Bee was going to try and go over one of the bigger jumps after we jumped our two foot jump, or follow someone right over one of them. I also didn't like the people all over the place walking around the arena when we were trying to do something. It scared me. I didn't like the bigger jumps in my way, or all the people. I couldn't tune anything out. That's why my lesson today didn't go very well. I have a show in less then two weeks, and I KNOW all the other things going on around me are going to be the big problem. Does anyone know how to tune out everything else going on around me? I am going to take a little practice/group lesson the day before the show, and there are going to be other people around in the arena practicing with me. So that will help a little. I am very afraid of people watching me too. I will barley be able to get up and do a report in class. Anyone know anything or any way to get over this? I really need help with this! It was making me nervous the whole lesson!

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post #2 of 17 Old 10-09-2011, 12:44 PM
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i'm not sure how you focus otherwise when jumping, but perhaps singing a song in your head will help. also, the right song with the right rhythm can help with your ride as well.

good luck!
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Look at it this way...the show will have crowded warm up areas with lots of people and confusion. That was the PERFECT lesson, IMO, to help prepare for that atmosphere for both you and the horse.

As for concentration, you do have to keep a type of radar going when at a show, to keep from crashing in the warm up. Just be mindful of others and learn to concentrate on whatever you are doing. No real hints, other than practice with confusion going on.
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Thanks! The reasons I don't like people around is because I trust myself and Bee, but if I don't know them, it makes me worry. I remember riding with people and horses I knew and I was fine, but I don't exactly trust others I guess. And, it was a good experience. I am going to have another lesson like this next Friday before the show that day. I will post a video in a little bit of today. I don't have to much footage because my mom didn't video tape until the end, and because there were so many people in the way. They are not the best, but there are some good ones in there. We did have some better ones that my mom didn't get on tape.
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Take as many group lessons as you can before the show. As you get more advanced, it's common for people to start taking group lessons instead of private or semi-private because it challenges them more and helps prepare them more for shows and other more realistic horse situations. Let me tell you, I have NEVER ridden with less than four other people in the same area as me. Or try taking a trail ride, especially with more beginner riders- that will cure you of this fear real quick.
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post #7 of 17 Old 10-09-2011, 09:53 PM
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"but if I don't know them, it makes me worry."

Worry seems to be one of my biggest challenges. I've found when I calm down and think all business, my horse calms down, too. the more shows I've gone to, the calmer I've gotten. It has a lot to do with experience. It also has to do with trusting your horse. If you do, that's the biggest hurdle right there!

Don't let all the other stuff MAKE you worry. Think of a postive thought, and the minute you start to worry, MAKE yourself use the positive thought. I have used "this is just business", "this pony can do this", "I'm just out for a nice ride, now worries." Things like that.

I would also ask your teacher when group lessons are so you can do ALL group lessons between now and the show. YOu really need the experience with other saround so you can learn how to make yourself think positive and tune the others out. Except, of course, you do need to know where the other riders are and what they're doing so you can avoid them.
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You NEED to get used to riding with distractions. If your horse was getting fussy and trying to buck, you need to ride outside alot more often. IMO your trainer should NOT have brought you inside after your horse was acting up, but rather helped you with the problem.

Group lessons/riding with other people is really good before a show. Ever been in a warmup arena? They're DEATH TRAPS, and getting used to them now is really important.

Also, get more comfortable with your horse. If you are afraid you don't have enough control to keep him from jumping other fences that are not ment for him to go over, that is not good! Sometimes in courses, there are jumps left from other courses that will not be for your level, and you will have to work around them.

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I find that when I communicate with the people in the arena I instantly feel more comfortable. If I am going for a jump and I feel they are getting close I say , "Heads up, please" in a very nice voice, Or I say "Oxer" as I'm passing so they know which jump I'm going for. And if they give me right of way I say, "thank you!" to let them know that their consideration is appreciated. And I say hello to everyone riding in the arena to break the ice and let them know I'm approachable too. Now, I wouldn't take it too far and over-communicate every move you are go make. But, you know, if you are nervous, just tell the rider, "I'm a bit nervous and just getting used to riding around other horses in the arena. Thanks for being patient with me and "Mr. Horse"."
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post #10 of 17 Old 10-17-2011, 04:28 PM Thread Starter
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haha thanks catsandhorses! I like the idea! I think that would make me a little more comfortable too!
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