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post #1 of 19 Old 08-27-2013, 12:50 PM Thread Starter
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I'm Terrified Of Horses But Love Them and Want To Overcome My Fear

Hi everyone! My name is Shalisha. I'm new to this forum:)

Here's the scenario: Sleepaway camp, 1987. We were rounding up the horses so the campers could go riding.

Suddenly, all of the horses got scared and they started going wild. I thought one was going to fall on me.

But that's just part of the story. When I moved to NYC, I decided to take horse riding lessons, but was still terrified from that experience. The horse I was riding suddenly kicked it's legs up...

A simple solution would be for me to avoid horses altogether.

Let's face it. Horses are huge scary animals. And they can seriously hurt you.

My point here is I desperately want to ride horses again - without the fear I'll get thrown off, trampled on, etc.

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post #2 of 19 Old 08-27-2013, 12:55 PM
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Start small. Volunteer at a therapeutic riding barn just muck stalls and feeding. When you're more comfortable, move up to helping groom and tack up the horses. Then move to learning to lead/handle them properly and help during lessons/classes. Finally, when you're comfortable with them on the ground, take a lesson or two. Just make sure to explain your fears to your instructor.

Baby steps. You can do this.
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post #3 of 19 Old 08-27-2013, 12:55 PM
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That stuff is a pretty rare occurrence, though it does occasionally happen. Many things horses do might seem scary, like when they kick they bellys with their hind legs or when they throw their head. If I were you I would find a reputable stable and take lessons on the ground first. Learn their habits, how they play, what scares them, how to properly control them, what to do if _______, etc. Exposing yourself to their ins and out will make them less scary. It's VERY rare a horse actually WANTS to hurt a person, like throw them off or trample them.
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I agree with what is said above. Find a good reputable barn and tell them the issues. You may pay a little more but will recieve good service and compitent help. Go only as fast as you are comfortable with and most of all enjoy the ride. If it isn't fun whats the point.
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post #5 of 19 Old 08-27-2013, 01:45 PM
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Oh, and hitting the ground isn't alll that bad. It only hurts until it stops hurting.
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Oh, and hitting the ground isn't alll that bad. It only hurts until it stops hurting.

I need to use this line...
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post #7 of 19 Old 08-27-2013, 01:47 PM
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welcome to the forum I am sorry you experince this
I hope you can and will overcome your fear

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post #8 of 19 Old 08-28-2013, 12:20 AM
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Welcome to the forum Shalisha!! I agree with everyone else, also remember give a horse respect and they'll respect you.

Being horseless is the pits!!
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post #9 of 19 Old 08-28-2013, 01:23 AM
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Hi Shalisha,
may be there is a psychological reason you fear horses and, at the same time, you wish to be around them. It's sometimes due to projections we put on pets, mainly dogs and horses. A traumatic experience can certainly enforce this tendency.
My latest book is about this kind of relationship we often have with horses.
However, the suggestions given you here by the forum-friends are very good to control your fear at a surface level.
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I worked with a woman who'd been on a run a way as a teen and of course the turn of events worsened in her mind. She wasn't particularly interested in riding but she felt the need to beat her fear. An English saddle was used as I didn't want her getting a death grip on the horn which would create tension throughout her body. Before I asked her to mount I explained every movement the horse might make as he adjusts to her weight. He was on a long line and that I would maintain full control at all times. She mounted, horse shifted and she was ok with that, knowing ahead of time what would happen. When she was ready she asked him to walk. I found it important to keep a conversation going, mainly about the horse's movements to help the rider focus on something other than fear. Within 10 min she and the horse were quite relaxed, moving at the end of the lunge. I can't take all the credit as it takes a special horse sometimes and I was lucky enough to own him.
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