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post #1 of 8 Old 04-26-2012, 10:15 PM Thread Starter
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Seeking information to build confidence

Hello everyone, my name is Ruby and I'm new here but not really to horses. I've spent a good majority of my life with horses but after a few years out of the saddle I've found I have no confidence left. So here I am looking to learn/relearn somethings to help me and my girl sage out.
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post #2 of 8 Old 04-26-2012, 10:25 PM
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I would get a trainer to work one on one with you.
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post #3 of 8 Old 04-27-2012, 12:52 AM
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A few things you can do:

Don't push your riding too far. Make small achievable short-term goals.

Always end on a good note, no matter if you got everything done or not.

And ultimately, seek a good riding instructor. They are instructors for a reason! They see things you don't and have experience to help you overcome things.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
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post #4 of 8 Old 04-27-2012, 02:11 AM
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Welcome., and don't feel along about the confidence thing. it's a major topic of discussion here, so you'll fit right in.
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post #5 of 8 Old 04-27-2012, 09:27 AM Thread Starter
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thanks guys I've been working with a trainer a couple times a month and it seems to be helping. Having the other people at my new barn has been helping alot to surprisingly. I never realized what having people there to cheer you on could do. Just frustrates me some times knowing what I used to be capable of and what I can't do know thanks to fear and low confidence. I look forward to getting to know you all!!!!
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post #6 of 8 Old 04-27-2012, 09:38 AM
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You are your hardest critic. Ease up on yourself :)

Instead look at it as potential, instead of "man I should be farther along than this!!"

You'll get there! And it's fabulous having a big support system backing you up. You've got one here too!

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
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post #7 of 8 Old 04-27-2012, 09:46 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks and your right about me being my own biggest critic :p I'm pretty bad about that lol I was so wound up about my lack of skills at one point I frustrated poor sage to a point that she turned her head and snorted at me! She's good though, I've had her a long time. She was there for the the peak of my skills and shes still here now that I'm lacking in them lol but she's good about it for the most part ;) unless she's inseason or one of her boyfriends is near by she's such a flirt
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post #8 of 8 Old 04-28-2012, 05:22 PM
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I can totally relate to this. I had a few years of a break without riding steadily, and the first time I got back in the saddle I took a a /walk/ >_<. It shattered my confidence in myself. haha I had lost ALL my balance, and didn't expect to fall. But luckily I have a friend that stables with me, and I had the right horse to reteach me everything. I owe her most of the credit. If not for her calm, laid back and easy personality, I think I'd still be scared and unsure.

A couple of months later, I'm almost back to my full skill and am SO happy with the progress. Keep up the work. The outcome is so rewarding.
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