Join Date: May 2011
Location: Chino Valley, AZ
She feels I should sell Aires because I haven't been out to see or work with him in a couple of months. She doesn't get that just because she is currently working part time and gets to do everything she wants to do pretty much whenever she wants to that others of us don't have that luxury.
I work usually from 8am until 5pm or 10am to 7pm. It's dark here by 5:30-6pm and the barn is almost half an hour away from my work (and from home). There are other days that I work 8am to 7pm or 8am to 6pm. I'm working 50+ hours per week. The only reason I see my boyfriend as often as I do is because we live together. When I get off early (5pm), I go home, cook dinner, watch maybe an hour or two of TV and then go to bed. When I get off late (7pm), we generally go out to eat and then go home and go to bed. The BO doesn't allow anyone at the barn after dark. I can't go before work on my late days (10am) because the BO doesn't feed until 8am, which means Aires isn't done eating until almost 9am, which leaves me less than a half an hour to tack him up, work him, untack him, and put him away...and then go to work (with the public...selling cars) smelling like a stable. On my days off (which are weird...I work eight days on, one day off, then three days on and two days off), I either have to help my boyfriend with his business, clean the house, or I'm so exhausted from work that I don't want to do anything at all.
All of this is why I'm moving barns. Firstly, I'm paying $300 a month and my horse is 13 miles from my house and 8 miles from my work. Secondly, I don't feel comfortable at the barn I'm at anymore (had a falling out with the BO last summer and things haven't been the same since). Third, I want Aires to be closer to me so that it dosen't seem like such a chore on my days off to drive out and work with him or see him.
I haven't said anything to her because she feels like she's in the right and said nothing wrong (according to a mutual friend who knows what's going on in my life right now and how stressed/busy I am). I don't want to sell Aires. That's a last resort. And I sure as he** don't want to buy a mare that is barely 14hh and you have to ride with a crop to make her move, even at a walk.
Do not tell me I can't...because I will show
you that I can.