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        09-26-2013, 10:37 PM
      #631
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    Thanks Chevaux! :)


    So. That 'training' today. *insert sarcastic laughter here*
    Ha.
    Hah.
    Haha.
    Hahaha.

    Yeah.
    The lady who was showing me stuff WAS a Parelli nut.
    However, plus side, she actually had a backbone. As a person I liked her. She actually got after the horses when they misbehaved instead of just 'ignoring' whtever it was. Of course, she got after them in a "oh, stop, please??" way vs a "STOP." way but any rules is better than nothing!
    AND she got results with her method. That's probably the biggest deal for me - if you're going to use a method, it had better be effective. I really respected that she was actually effective with it.

    I'm still very unlikely to add those techniques into my own "theory" but it worked for her, it worked for the horses, and I was actually getting results with the horses when I tried some of the things she had shown me with them. Not necessarily results that I cared about...but they were 'the right' results which pleases my perfectionist side.

    Anyway, that was kind of fun. I haven't had a 'lesson' in yearrrs, I love love love learning, AND the lady showing me stuff was 100% willing to answer my questions without getting offended.
    I told her from the get-go that I wasn't a Parelli fan but that I was willing to learn and was willing to try whatever she asked me to try. And she was kind and indulged all my questions, even the questions that made her look silly [I noticed at one point that she was continuing to cue the horse for a move while he was doing the move and, figuring there was a 'reason' for it - trying to understand the WHY of it all, asked about why she was doing that. Turned out that she hadn't even realized she was doing that and that she was actually 'wrong' ]. Anyway, I was really impressed with that.

    And, funny story, this lady saw me with Fabs and was immediately like "Oh. This is Emily's next horse."


    My boss was still iffy about my "ability to handle it" but, I apparently did it again, trainer-lady was going on and on to my boss about how she had no doubt I could handle it and that she was 'impressed' with my 'ability' and all this stuff. Awkward guys, I'm REALLY not that great. I could cash+burn at any second. But I was really glad to hear the trainer-lady say I could handle it.

    So we'll see. Hopefully I can indeed handle it and parrot what they want me to parrot!



    And, for your viewing pleasure, a video of Atti doing tricks. He's pro at "bye-bye" now! We're just starting "shake hands" as well.
    Lacey and Hazel make this, I think. They are the funniest. So much sass.



    :)
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        09-27-2013, 07:17 PM
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    1. Lacey. Oh Lacey. She tweaked that 'bum' leg of hers again, literally a year since whatever she did to it last year, and now she's super super lame again. The injury appears identical happened last fall. That front left pastern is swollen huge and it's warm to the touch. And she is SO so lame.
    BOO, Lacey. BOO.
    So I'm going to ice it this evening and, fingers crossed, she'll turn it around quicker than last year. I looked up the dates and this is genuinely one year, to the week, since she did whatever she did last year.
    I'm 110% sure she messed it up while cantering down a muddy, slick, hill. That's one of her favorite "OMG, it started raining!!" activities. Poo.

    2. You guys would be so proud: I texted Gman and he was actually telling me things in his replies so, instead of our usual "here's a story, kthanxbye"-thing, I ASKED HIM HOW HIS DAY WAS GOING.
    And he actually told me, in 'long form'! And asked me how my day was!

    Anyway, that's like a whole new 'thing' for me/us. We have always stuck to our storytelling and never asked about how the other person is doing. This is good good good.

    Man, at the rate this is going, we could actually make it 5 years of knowing each other before we actually get 'anywhere'. [once he asked me how long I would have to know a guy before I married him - being an idiot, I was like "oh, 5 years of friendship before dating seems reasonable!" (since I was trrrying to hedge my bets since he wants to get married within 2 years of beginning to date 'the right girl'...I'm not bright sometimes. Hahahaha) ]


    Anyhoo, I was excited about that.
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        09-28-2013, 04:30 AM
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    Hahaha! Oh well, you've brought it upon yourself. If Gman wanted to make a move, he won't now because he thinks you want five straight years of friendship! 😉 Just kidding.

    By the way, I love how Atti wags his tail when he knows he's done done something right.
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        09-28-2013, 02:05 PM
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    Aaaw poor Lacey. Silly girl hope she heals up quick.

    But the Atti video=epic. That goat is awesome hahahaha
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        09-28-2013, 04:45 PM
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    I could have told her that you'd do well with Fabs. I can tell that from 200 miles away.

    With Atti, you might have better results if you make the hand signals, (what he is most likely going off of) more clearly differentiated. Your hand is in the same basic position for wave byebye as to back up;; up and over his head soemwaht. Waht if one of them was up high, and one was lower?, or one had the hand upward facing (palm up). The clearer the big differences are the better the animal can differenctiate. A dog could see very small differences, but I kind of think a goat might not be quite as smart as a dog.
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        09-30-2013, 11:56 PM
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    RIGHT, Muumi?! But really, how do you say "oh, so in case you're interested and remember what I said, over 3 years ago, about not dating a person until I've known them for 5 years...you'd be a exception, if you wanted to be." Hah! That wouldn't be an awkward discussion!
    and I brought it on myself.

    Thanks Christy! :)


    Awww, thanks Caroline. :) [love your new avatar, btw!] Good thinking about Atti's training! I'll have to think about some different movements/signals that I could use. I think you're probably super right about that being why he's confused.
    I've tested it by just doing verbal cues a few times and he has a much higher ratio of "rightness" with just the verbal...but his response is a whole lot slower. If that makes sense.



    Well ya'll, had my first day of school today!
    It actually went really super well. My first class was at 8am so I was up at 4:30am to get myself/the animals ready for the day. I was on the train to school by 6:30 and at school by 7:30, it was perfect. Though I realllllly don't know why I'm still up right now, at 8pm. I am so tired. So if this doesn't really make sense, that's why.

    I have 4 classes on M/W and one on Friday. 2 back to back [with 10 minutes in between], 45 minute break, then 2 more back to back [10 minutes between].
    And I survived day 1. Go me. Haha

    Only 3 more [this 'current' term included] terms to go until graduation!

    Today has been something else. But I survived and that's what counts. :)


    On the Gentleman Friend front, from last night, = ..........
    You guys are going to love this:
    So I bought a shirt that says "Alpacalypse" on it because alpacas/llamas are one of our eternal inside jokes [he's the one who got me those llama stamps so so long ago]. He finallllly saw it last night and nearly passed out, he was laughing so hard.
    He told me that "that is the greatest tshirt ever"
    And I, being a smooooth operator, was all "if they ever go on sale, I'll buy you one!!"
    He was like "oh geez, you shouldn't"
    And I, continuing with my smooth operation, was all "only if they go on sale, [digging a hole] I'd spend money on you...but only on sale money. Not as much as I paid for this. Oh my gosh, what am I saying? I am the meanest. But really, I'd spend money on you! Just not as much as I paid..." and on for a few more sentences until I forced myself to shut the heck up.

    WHAT THE HECK IS WROOOOOONG WITH ME. I should just never speak again.
    Luckily he's seen me at worst than this so I don't think he was too hurt or whatever...BUT REALLY. On a list of mean+hurtful things to say, way to hit like the top 10, Emily!!

    So that wasn't great. At all. I should just not speak.

    Luckily he stuck around for longer than that and I said that in the first couple of minutes we were together, out of probably 10, and I figured out my words better after that. Haha

    But, in life developments, his job with the old ladies is apparently ending pretty soon and he's planning to move into Downtown Portland...and who goes to school downtown? Oh yeah, that'd be ME!
    I was all "that's awesome! We could hang out for reals!!" and he was all "YEAH! We could get lunch all the time!" and I was all "well...I really don't have a lunch break...." and he was all "oh....then, I'll just come over and walk with you to class!"
    WHAT!!!?? Awwwwwwwww.
    Adorable.

    Who knows if it would actually happen but, if you recall, this is the same guy who has never actually done anything with me 1:1 and never previously offered to do anything with me 1:1. Besides these church hangouts. The church 'friend-time' is literally the first time I've ever had with just him, us talking without anyone we really know-know super close by, in our entire friendship.
    He's always been VERY careful to wrangle another mutual friend/acquaintance to be with us at all times, except for maybe a few 30 second intervals when said friend stepped away or whatever.

    Which of course makes me feel...sort of special. I mean in any case, regardless of his 'real' goal, he's making sure there's never any question of anything that could be asked and that he's being really respectful of me! Adorable.
    It used to be really frustrating, like "what about me is so repulsive that you can't stand to be alone with me??!", but then I realized that guys who don't care don't act like that. And whether it's friend-caring or other-caring, it's really respectful and it doesn't feel bad to be cared about like that. :)

    Anyway, we talked some more, then we parted ways. And I was proud of myself - on parting I gave him a REAL hug. Not just "arms up by shoulders"-hug but an "arms wrapped around the other person"-hug. Those are hard for me and he's basically a professional at them. He knows they're hard for me, he knows that he's 'special' to be getting one hug, let alone 2, from me! Haha But, don't tell anyone, I actually really like hugs from him. They make me feel safe.
    I think he got the point, on parting he said "I'm really glad we got to see each other, Emily."
    And he NEVER says my name. Ok, he does but it's rare. I rarely call him by name too...how weird is that. Haha

    Also, other "Emily should stop writing, she's too tired" point I noticed, when he said my name:
    He used to say my name like the soft E-sound [like "embezzle"] was an soft I-sound [like the I sound in "milk"]. Like 'Immm'-ily.
    And I HATE that so much when people do that to my name. I don't know why but it makes me feel queasy, not even kidding. Haha
    I never said anything to him about it because I know some people just can't hear the difference and I didn't want to make him feel bad about ever saying my name. And I figured I could probably get used to do if that was ever necessary.

    But now he's saying my name the "right" way, the way I like, with a soft E-sound. Like 'Ehhh'-mily.
    This has happened the last 2 times he's said my name. Before that [see, it happens so little I can remember the times. Lame, I know. Haha], it was 'Immmm'-ily alllllways.

    Weird, right? But I'm ok with that!!


    Anyhoo. 'Going-to-bed'-time for me, before I share any more "brilliant" insights with the world.

    And 2 pictures.

    Lacey, at 5am. White horse in a blackout!



    Lacey this evening.
    "whatever do you mean, 'don't eat that thistle'? I most certainly can and WILL eat this thistle! And I'll LIKE IT."



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        10-01-2013, 12:10 AM
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    "Alpacalips"
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        10-01-2013, 02:53 AM
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    But, in life developments, his job with the old ladies is apparently ending pretty soon and he's planning to move into Downtown Portland...and who goes to school downtown? Oh yeah, that'd be ME!
    I was all "that's awesome! We could hang out for reals!!" and he was all "YEAH! We could get lunch all the time!" and I was all "well...I really don't have a lunch break...." and he was all "oh....then, I'll just come over and walk with you to class!"
    WHAT!!!?? Awwwwwwwww.
    Adorable.

    Who knows if it would actually happen but, if you recall, this is the same guy who has never actually done anything with me 1:1 and never previously offered to do anything with me 1:1. Besides these church hangouts. The church 'friend-time' is literally the first time I've ever had with just him, us talking without anyone we really know-know super close by, in our entire friendship.
    He's always been VERY careful to wrangle another mutual friend/acquaintance to be with us at all times, except for maybe a few 30 second intervals when said friend stepped away or whatever.

    Which of course makes me feel...sort of special. I mean in any case, regardless of his 'real' goal, he's making sure there's never any question of anything that could be asked and that he's being really respectful of me! Adorable.
    It used to be really frustrating, like "what about me is so repulsive that you can't stand to be alone with me??!", but then I realized that guys who don't care don't act like that. And whether it's friend-caring or other-caring, it's really respectful and it doesn't feel bad to be cared about like that. :)

    Anyway, we talked some more, then we parted ways. And I was proud of myself - on parting I gave him a REAL hug. Not just "arms up by shoulders"-hug but an "arms wrapped around the other person"-hug. Those are hard for me and he's basically a professional at them. He knows they're hard for me, he knows that he's 'special' to be getting one hug, let alone 2, from me! Haha But, don't tell anyone, I actually really like hugs from him. They make me feel safe.
    I think he got the point, on parting he said "I'm really glad we got to see each other, Emily."
    And he NEVER says my name. Ok, he does but it's rare. I rarely call him by name too...how weird is that. Haha

    Also, other "Emily should stop writing, she's too tired" point I noticed, when he said my name:
    He used to say my name like the soft E-sound [like "embezzle"] was an soft I-sound [like the I sound in "milk"]. Like 'Immm'-ily.
    And I HATE that so much when people do that to my name. I don't know why but it makes me feel queasy, not even kidding. Haha
    I never said anything to him about it because I know some people just can't hear the difference and I didn't want to make him feel bad about ever saying my name. And I figured I could probably get used to do if that was ever necessary.

    But now he's saying my name the "right" way, the way I like, with a soft E-sound. Like 'Ehhh'-mily.
    This has happened the last 2 times he's said my name. Before that [see, it happens so little I can remember the times. Lame, I know. Haha], it was 'Immmm'-ily alllllways.

    Weird, right? But I'm ok with that!!



    *More girly squealing commences* Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

    This is so awesome!!!!!!!!! So so so sooo awesome!

    Also... a little advice on the whole finding yourself rambling thing.. I do that all the time. With someone I like, I find it best that when I'm in one of those funky moods, just to end it mysteriously like "Maybe someday..." so that I give them things to think about and not dig myself my early grave (per say)

    But seriously, how could he not like you?! You're so you, and that's awesome!!!

    Do his hugs make you feel alive/on fire/buzzed too? That's a good sign!
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        10-01-2013, 11:17 PM
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    Good one, Caroline! It has this on the front:



    SO FUNNY.

    Maggie: "eeeeeeeeeee!!"
    I'll have to give that a try. :)
    Aww, you're sweet. I spent a long time hiding who I really was from the world because I just wasn't comfortable with who I am. But not anymore! And it feel so much better to be real, like I can breath.

    As far as his hugs making me feel alive/etc, I don't know. They used to, during my "lust period" [ not weird like it sounds!], but then I realized that I was indeed lusting after him and that's not respectful of him. SO I tried to stop thinking of him as a body and think him more as a mind. [mind you, he is a fiiiiine physical specimen! Hahaha]
    BUT, ideally he'd hug me for forever and ever and never leave. Which I don't feel about literally anyone in my entire life. Most people can leave and I'm all "whatevs, dawg." but him.... Basically he's like my human Lacey, if that makes sense. I don't like him as much as I like Lacey, but darnit if he isn't getting close.
    Hugs from him make me feel all sappy and girly..which are not things I generally feel. Ever. I even fake cooing over baby bunnies, to give you an idea of my emotionless internal state.


    Speaking of Gman, cute story:
    Last night I texted him because I had read a hilariously terrible pickup line and he loves bad pickup lines as much as I do. Which is A LOT.
    I texted him to ask if he wanted to hear it [I've figured out that asking if he wants to hear it, even though I know he will always say yes, seems to encourage more discussion] and he texted back to say that he was falling asleep and that he wouldn't read it until the morning, but that he wanted to hear it [code: "I'm going to text you back at 5:30am if you send it now"]. I figured out a way to silence my phone overnight without having to remember to silence it so I was ok with that.
    I texted back the pickup line and said something to the effect of: that I was glad he was falling asleep since that meant he got to laugh when he woke up and start the day off good.

    When I woke up at 7am, I had a text from him that was full of lots of laughter from the pickup line AND a reference to something he knew I would think was quite funny.

    Sommmmebody wanted to make sure I woke up smiling too.


    I had more to say about today [Work Creep/Fabs/Lacey] but it's already 8:16pm and I have to be up at 4:30am again tomorrow. I want to be going to sleep at 9 sooo I really should start now. Boo. I'll try to be back tomorrow. :)
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        10-02-2013, 11:40 PM
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    From yesterday:

    Work Creep - we've officially become 'friends'. It's really actually great. He's basically exactly like my brother, when my brother was a teen, and I never see my brother now that he's married...so it's nice to have someone like him around [my brother and I were/are super close - we're only a year apart in age so we pretty much grew up like twins].
    AND he was having some difficulty with his lady friend so I gave him the 411 on that. Heeeheeeheeheehee. Emily has powwwwwer. But no, I gave him real advice.
    I get to feel like a big sister again!! Haha

    Fabs - HI-larious story. So, when he gets a bit nervous, he stops focusing on whoever is leading him and more on walking fast to get 'away'. He doesn't break into a trot or anything, just tunes everything out and walks it OUT.
    My boss suggested we fix it by "blocking him with the stick on his nose" [aka, "shove the stick in front of his nose and pray that he slows down"]. Tried that once, it worked a few times but it wasn't a method that actually taught him anything = he's nevver going to stop since he doesn't know it's not right. And, mind you, they've been using this 'method' on him for months, pre-me, with no change. *headdesk*
    Anyway, I didn't have any ideas so I read up on the lovely HoFo and someone mentioned a quick about-face every time he gets ahead of me. So I threw Work Creep up there [Fabs leads PERFECTLY sans rider - weirdo! Haha] and expected it to take at least 30 minutes.
    And you know how many repetitions it took?
    Literally 2.
    He nearly immediately barged ahead, I flew in the opposite direction, and he thought I had gone nuts. 2 minutes later, he did it again on the opposite side. I flew around again, and he though I was nuts again.
    Then it took a solid 15 minutes of walking to 'bore' him into doing it again [while I worked with him on stopping as soon as my feet stop], I flew around, he came too, and we walked around for another 5 minutes.

    Later in his session, one where he LOVES to barge ahead because he gets bored and a little frustrated [the rider for that one is motivated to do her best by the idea that she gets 'reins' -rope reins looped around his neck - neck pressure only- at the end of her session and he's not a huuuge fan of the reins part since she's has MS and is not the most forgiving..but he's trying SO hard, she can actually get him to stop and back up just with her 'reins'. Her riding sessions are the only thing that taught him that!! SO CUTE.].
    Anyway, he 'magically' didn't barge ahead at all. A few times he sped up a little too much but 'blocking' him with the stick solved it really quickly since he had already learned that barging ahead was a no-no.
    Who'da' thunk' it. You need to teach horses what right and wrong looks like?! WHAT.
    Anyway. I really like that horse. He is so so smart and tries SO hard to learn whatever I might be teaching him. He's a good boy. :)
    *proud trainer moment*

    Lacey - She got her hooves done yesterday by the hoof trimmer. I felt overwhelmed with the idea of moving hay, doing school+homework, work, teaching lessons, taking care of Lacey+the G's, AND trying to trim everyone's hooves as often as they need it.
    So I had the trimmer do Lacey and Hazel. Atti is pretty sassy about his hooves but they're easy to trim once you get past the sass [he has super soft hooves too which helps]. Lacey and Hazel's hooves both need a lot more effort [hooves like freaking ROCKS]+thought.
    I feel a lot better better about that. I like doing them all myself but I tend to take on too much and forget to get help until I REALLY need help...so cutting out the stress-induced-meltdown.

    AND her leg is doing super better! Not as swollen by far. She's still SUPER gimpy when trotting but she's happy to trot which says she's in less pain - she really tones down her activity level according to whatever she's feeling internally. She's only gimpy when walking downhill as well, not gimping on turns anymore! So this is all good. Go LaceyShmace!

    Speaking of Lacey: 5am Breakfast Lacey!



    Today, man. I am WIPED. I don't even know how I made it through my last class. Oh yeah, by drawing this:

    Dinosaur training!



    Earlier in the day, the Loch Ness Monster visited Mr+Mrs Penguin.





    And sweet Gman story:
    First, I was real sappy this morning. The sunrise was really pretty and, for whatever reason, he was the one who NEEDED to see it [I rarely just text people about silly stuff like that but whatever, something got into me this morning] so I texted him about it. And he was appropriately super excited. He loves sunrises/sunsets as much as I do. :)

    Then, sweet part, I don't know if he remembered that I get out of class at 4 or what, but on the dot of 4, I got a text from him that was an absolutely random story. Nothing that we had EVER talked about before and not even really 'funny' [not that it "needs" to be funny but usually, when he's telling me a story for the sake of the story, the stories are super funny], basically "hey" in story form.
    And we texted my whole train ride home. Which, I can't remember if I told you guys, is my favorite. The train is boring so it's basically "texting time" [especially since the train limits what you can do by a whole lot, no real reading, no homework, etc, because you end up getting in the way of people/people need to get past you...it just turns into a mess]. Gman texts are like Christmas presents every time, you never know what he's going to say = the perfect distraction for a boring train ride!

    Annnnyway. I like this a whole lot.

    [and, interesting thing which is probably a friend-thing and not a big deal, we were talking and I said that I was bad at Tetris, which he interpreted to mean that I didn't like Tetris -I don't dislike Tetris-, and he texted me back saying "don't say that! I LOVE TETRIS."...now we're apparently liking things solely because the other person does?? Interesting. Haha but cute.]



    Anyway, I think that was thoroughly everything that occurred today/yesterday. Whew!
    And now I'm going to go to bed.

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