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        10-13-2013, 12:28 PM
      #651
    Yearling
    I always LOVE your photos! The ones with Lacey with the blanket took my breath away!
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        10-17-2013, 04:20 PM
      #652
    Yearling
    Excuse me Wallaby, I need a Lacey fix!!!
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        10-17-2013, 05:21 PM
      #653
    Teen Forum Moderator
    You are so welcome, Christy! I'm glad it hit the spot!! <3 Speaking of things specifically for you:
    LOOK WHO I RODE ON TUESDAY!!!


    Only your boy! Haha He was great. I even got to ride hm at a trot a little bit and oh my word. Like riding a COUCH!

    Thanks Chevaux!! I love those ones too :)

    Haha that's too funny, cakemom! :) Now if I ever have a son, I know what to do! Hahaha

    Aw, I'm glad, Cherrij! That one is my favorite too! :)




    Ok guys, I don't even know where to start. At all.
    Especially with work on Tuesday. It was the most horrifying fiasco of ignorance...
    I guess maybe I'll start there.

    First, turns out Work Creep was asked not to work on that same Tuesday I was told I wasn't working = makes me feel WAY better. Still not totally 100% comfortable with this whole thing but mildly reassured.
    WORK CREEP. He was like a Pomeranian who had been sent to the boarding kennel for 3 months. He was so happy to see me and alllll he wanted to do was stand around and talk and talk and talk. It was kinda nice/funny, considering how the rest of the day went.

    The real stuff was that a 'volunteer' showed up and apparently she's "training" the horses.
    I have SO many issues with this. Not the least of which being that she's encouraging the horses to let her "massage inside their lips because that's the sign of a great horse".... Um. What?
    And then she spent significant amounts of time 'playing' with the horses where she would sit/lay on the ground and call them to herself and say that they were "joining up with her".
    Basically I don't have a problem with playing around if you want to play around with a horse. I certainly do enough silly stuff to Lacey!! However, 1. Don't try to make it "more" than it is and 2. Take actual FREE time to do that stuff. She was supposed to be helping me do various activities but she wasn't because the was "training".

    Not to mention that she encouraged my boss to get Skippy, the TWH, lunging for a solid 30 minutes-hour per day. That's cool, he needs a lot more exercise than he's getting and if no one is going to ride him...but when my boss asked if that lunging could happen on the lead rope, this girl said that all lunging, at all gaits should happen on a lead rope and that lunge lines where "creations of people not in control of their horses"...
    Yeah.
    I tried mentioning all those studies and whatnot about the torque lunging in tight circles puts on a horse's joints...but at that point "New Girl" and my boss were basically a clique and I was the outsider, so they both pretty much gave me the stink eye. Haha

    [as an aside, I figured that out about my boss - she's constantly looking to form a clique and I think that's where we go wrong. I've never fit well into cliques and I just don't "get it"...so I'm always the outsider. Always. But realizing that about her also makes understanding this *waves arms around* much easier.]

    Other gems from the day: "stallions are better if they're crossbreeds! Hybrid vigor!!" [of course she had a stallion and spent the 7 hours we worked together telling me about him - Saddlebred/Perch/Belgian/Fresian cross, in case anybody was wondering] "Buddy, because he's a draft, should be grounddriven in a driving bit with shanks...___boss's name___ doesn't like bits so a hackamore with at least 6 inch shanks will work" "a horse should never get to drink as much water as it wants all at once. It will get sick!!" "Tom Thumbs are the nicest bits" "What? You can't neck rein in a snaffle or anything bitless!!"

    Etc.
    I was SERIOUSLY about to lose it.
    Luckily Work Creep was out moving some piles of bark dust so whenever I just couldn't handle it, and I was on a break, I went out and helped him. The physical activity and Work Creep's constant chatter helped lower my:

    - radar

    But yeah.

    My 'favorite' horror-moment was probably her yelling "DROP IT!!" at Buddy, like he was a dog, when he grabbed her arm with his teeth. She didn't smack him or anything, just hollered "DROP IT!"
    Because that always works.

    She did have a few really helpful tips about some stuff that I needed some help with so I really appreciated that! But otherwise it was quite the day.

    I guess really the most frustrating part was that this girl was basically doing my job all day [I was a side walker...which is probably more fun that horse handling but you know], having my boss hang off every one of her words, subsequently being completely ignored by my boss and this girl [they even locked me in the barn at the end of the day because they forgot I was still working...I climbed out the window which was genuinely super fun, but yeah], AND the fact that this girl was 'training' the horses not at all in the style they're telling me I need to handle the horses in.
    My boss talked with me extensively about how she felt that consistency between the people handling the horses was more important that anything...and then this. How is that consistent? Grrrr.

    ANYWAY.
    I do really really like this job but the lack of consistency [haha] is reallllly getting to me!!


    So that was Tuesday.
    Then there was yesterday. Yesterday was...something. I don't know what was going on.
    School was ok, I got called up in front of two of my classes for various reasons and I'm a "freezer". I get nervous being on the spot and I freeze. I could have known the correct answer 2 seconds before, but call on me and watch me instantly forget.
    I don't hate having attention on me if I've initiated the attention but getting called on in class..boy. Yeah, no good.

    Then I kinda dug myself a hole with Gentleman Friend.
    I basically just texted him way too much. 3 stories in one day, after he had already texted me first thing in the morning [he needed someone's phone number, haha]. And he wasn't responding "right", you know? Like he was just being all "haha" and that was it...so I obviousssssly had to push it and keep texting him, trying to get a 'better' response.
    Yeah, no better responses came. He's not mad, I don't think, but lots of stuff is going on for him right now and I need to tone it down.
    So I'm going to try to not text him until, unless something realllllly great happens tomorrow, Saturday.

    But then again, tomorrow is his last day of work and he's basically been counting down, maybe I should text him tomorrow afternoon/evening being all "hope your last day went well!"... because that's caring, right?
    Maybe I'll do that. [unless he texts me earlier, obviously]

    Ah! Not going to over think it. Going to do what feels right!

    Picture from yesterday:



    Then today Lacey and I went on a trail ride. It was the best. I do love that horse!!

    First. [I let her out of her stall to get her breakfast ready and let her go to the bathroom if she needed to - she hates going undersaddle and we were heading out right after 'breakfast'! Haha]

    This is her "you talking to me??", plus farting, face.



    "Breakfast, you say?!"



    Then 2 pictures from the ride







    And that is all for now!
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        10-17-2013, 05:30 PM
      #654
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    Originally Posted by Wallaby    
    You are so welcome, Christy! I'm glad it hit the spot!! <3 Speaking of things specifically for you:
    LOOK WHO I RODE ON TUESDAY!!!


    Only your boy! Haha He was great. I even got to ride hm at a trot a little bit and oh my word. Like riding a COUCH!

    I was SERIOUSLY about to lose it.
    Luckily Work Creep was out moving some piles of bark dust so whenever I just couldn't handle it, and I was on a break, I went out and helped him. The physical activity and Work Creep's constant chatter helped lower my:

    - radar

    But yeah.

    She did have a few really helpful tips about some stuff that I needed some help with so I really appreciated that! But otherwise it was quite the day.


    So that was Tuesday.
    Then there was yesterday. Yesterday was...something. I don't know what was going on.
    School was ok, I got called up in front of two of my classes for various reasons and I'm a "freezer". I get nervous being on the spot and I freeze. I could have known the correct answer 2 seconds before, but call on me and watch me instantly forget.
    I don't hate having attention on me if I've initiated the attention but getting called on in class..boy. Yeah, no good.

    Then I kinda dug myself a hole with Gentleman Friend.
    I basically just texted him way too much. 3 stories in one day, after he had already texted me first thing in the morning [he needed someone's phone number, haha]. And he wasn't responding "right", you know? Like he was just being all "haha" and that was it...so I obviousssssly had to push it and keep texting him, trying to get a 'better' response.
    Yeah, no better responses came. He's not mad, I don't think, but lots of stuff is going on for him right now and I need to tone it down.
    So I'm going to try to not text him until, unless something realllllly great happens tomorrow, Saturday.

    But then again, tomorrow is his last day of work and he's basically been counting down, maybe I should text him tomorrow afternoon/evening being all "hope your last day went well!"... because that's caring, right?
    Maybe I'll do that. [unless he texts me earlier, obviously]

    Ah! Not going to over think it. Going to do what feels right!

    Picture from yesterday:



    Then today Lacey and I went on a trail ride. It was the best. I do love that horse!!

    First. [I let her out of her stall to get her breakfast ready and let her go to the bathroom if she needed to - she hates going undersaddle and we were heading out right after 'breakfast'! Haha]

    This is her "you talking to me??", plus farting, face.



    "Breakfast, you say?!"



    Then 2 pictures from the ride







    And that is all for now!
    I cut out all of the crappy stuff because you don't need to have all THAT requoted.

    Your radar.... TROOOOOLL IN THE DUNGEON. I burst out laughing, oh my goodness. Emily.... that made my morning!!!

    1. You are overthinking and also blaming yourself about Gentleman Friend/GMan. Calm yo'self! Give yourself, and him, some space. Do things that make you happy. Yes, do text him that you hope he had a good last day or w/e. That's a good move. After that, see what happens!

    2. YAY for riding!!! How is Mr. Fabs doing?

    3. You and me both about the freezing up.. anxiety sucks! That's why when I know the answer, I raise my hand. Better that than to be randomly called out in class! Then you have some form of control about the situation. Right? Logic rocks

    4. Hugs hugs hugs hugs and more hugs! I'm happy that your status had a playful feel to it about being locked in, and now that I know the whole story I am glad you didn't let you get it down cause what they did was down right dirty. Keep thinking positively!

    Hugs <3
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        10-17-2013, 11:04 PM
      #655
    Teen Forum Moderator
    I'm so glad you got a good laugh! That's basically one of my favorite parts of HP...and what I think of whenever someone's trolling or behaving in a troll-ish manner. Such a nerd.

    1] Thank you for your thoughts on the Gman situation! I thought about it more [hahaha] and you are so right.
    It's so funny+weird, I have SUCH different 'rules' for the various people in my life. Most people I'd just be like "oh, ok, whatever" but Gman, I'm all "OMG HE HATES MY GUTS!!"
    Geez Louise. He has me around his finger. [also fitting since my middle name is actually Louise... ]

    2] Fabs: unknown. He wasn't at work on Tuesday. :(((( Apparently my boss had him at her house over the weekend and didn't want to bring him back on Tuesday. :( BOO. I miss my boy!

    3] Exactly! That's what I try to do when it's a situation where being called on is inevitable - like an in-class speech or something. But these were like "lecture...lecture..lecture...oh hey Emily! Why don't you come up here and tell us your thoughts on this!" me: "um...how about I not??!" Both times I got the class laughing, even though I really didn't have the right answer [due to flash forgetting! Haha]...so I'd count that as a success. I love making people laugh and I find that if I can get a laugh in a situation like that, I walk away feeling a whole lot smarter and more confident about it! Even if I didn't have the right answer and even if I was terrified into forgetting.

    4] Yeah! I try to keep it light on FB as a general rule and really, it wasn't that bad. *hugs back* Throughout my life, I've had waaay worse happen to me by people I cared a lot about, so the actions of relative strangers don't get me too bummed anymore. And I'm trying to be optimistic. I don't think they intended to forget me out there, or I would like to think that.
    Not to mention that the joke's on them [if they intended to lock me in] since I had a TON of fun figuring out how to get out! I felt like Amy Pond from Dr. Who, or something! Some kind of epic heroine!
    But still: back :)



    Also! I forgot another sort of fun thing from yesterday.
    I have a friend who's basically one of the most influential people in my life. She really inspires me to be better as a person and to love myself for who I am, instead of hating myself for failing to conform to my vision of what I 'should' be. And she's always there for me, no matter what. We don't get to hang out a ton but if I'm having a hard day, I shoot her a text/email/message and she'll send me text after text of encouragement, then continue to text/whatever me for however long I need to talk. She's really the greatest.

    Anyway, she knows Gman [she worked at camp too, but as a Counselor] and she knows about how I feel about Gman. She's been kind of my relationship 'consultant' [haha! Also along with you guys, of course!!], helping me stay on track and keep it 'real'...as well as notifying me when she thinks something is a bigger deal than I bumblingly think it is [like the hanging out before church...I had no idea that that was kinda a big deal. Apparently for Jesus-people, that's kinda a courting-ish step...and who knew!!? Hahahaha].
    [other detail here: she's a matchmaker. She's AMAZING at narrowing people down to just the important stuff, she sees stuff even you don't see about yourself. If she knows someone you should be with, she'll let you know and try to make it happen however she can.]
    But she's never been like "I approve" with Gman. And I've wondered about why. Since she is so important to me, her approval would mean a LOT.

    Where this all is going: yesterday she and Gman teamed up to find a really good foster home for a little baby [they both have connections in the foster care system] who's the child of a friend of that close friend.
    After they did that, she texted me to say "He [Gman] is great. Go be married one day"

    And though it's kinda silly, that means a whole lot to me.



    And, for your viewing pleasure, 2 cat pictures!

    1. My cat. He's adorable



    2. There's a little female cat who has decided that she basically wants to be my barn cat. She looks exactly like my cat, it's the weirdest. Only differences: she's about 1/3 my cat's size and she's all black while my cat has a white chest spot and a white paw. Otherwise they are basically twins!! She is SO sweet. :)
    I love me some cats! Haha




    And that is all! 2 'novels' in one day! Whew. Haha
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        10-18-2013, 03:08 AM
      #656
    Yearling
    YEEEY!
    I got my fix... not too much on Lacey, but ye...
    I loved the radar I started laughing again and was happy noone is in the house.

    Oh my god.. I am so glad I do not have to work for such people who do not know what they want. I train 2 horses at the moment, the owner is satisfied, we have no problems. He does not mess with my work and that's it. I think I would have asked 20 thousand questions to that girl, just to get her on her toes... but probably, the BO would have fired me then
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        10-18-2013, 11:34 AM
      #657
    Green Broke
    Buddeh!!!!!!


    Aaaaaw that's no bueno that Fabs was gone though! Never fun when your favorite work horse isn't there to cheer you up!

    Also....totally feel you on the whole volunteer thinks she's gods gift to horses thing....I've experienced that ALOT with some of the volunteers. Only advice is just keep doing you and just get the job done. TRUE horsemwn/women. Appreciate those that can just keep their heads down and do what needs to be done. Trolls and attention seekers will eventually be seen for what they ate and when they are booted off the island those that flocked to Hoer will look around and see

    "Oh while troll girl was running her mouth, Emily was over here getting it done and doing what's right"
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        10-18-2013, 11:57 AM
      #658
    Green Broke
    I just started actually following this journal; I feel like I have so much to catch up on ;-;

    Adorable pics! Keep us updated with Gman (seems like you do a good job of that, though! XD)
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        10-18-2013, 03:32 PM
      #659
    Teen Forum Moderator
    Well guys, prepare to get POed:

    I got a letter this morning from work.
    Yes. My 'boss' sent me a LETTER to 'let me go'. She claims I "made the horses crazy" in late August/early September [oh yeah, right around the time they were eating pounds of apples per day??].

    And it's postdated on Tuesday. So she sent it WHILE I WAS AT WORK.

    However, I tried to be the bigger person. I sent her a text saying that I wished we had been able to discuss her concerns, that I was sorry she felt she had to let me go, and then I thanked her for the experience and wished her well.

    Anyway. I could just go punch a freaking wall right now.
    I'm hanging out with my cousin after I get out of class and I really just want to call it off. But I know that seeing her will help me feel better. In any case, I really just want to go home, hug my cat, watch Dr. Who, and eat stuff that's full of calories. [plus side: my cousin and I are going to a gluten free bakery=at least I can eat 'bad' stuff! Hah.]
         
        10-18-2013, 04:36 PM
      #660
    Yearling
    Dang girl, that's not good :( But I am sure you will find a better place to work at!
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