Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: New Hartford, CT
Yesterday was a mixed day at the barn. I have really fallen in love with Fritz, and was finally able to get him ready on my own (rather quickly too). He and I seem to be bonding well, as he doesn't try to bite me and was easy for me to tack (BO says he can be very difficult). As I'm finally comfortable handling him on my own, I asked the BO to speak to his owner about a possible lease. He's a QH / Draft cross, and he's super gentle and a real goofball. He's also the most vocal horse I have ever known.
I was able to speak to his owner last night, and I am officially leasing Fritz twice per week. I got an amazing deal too, the rest of May is free, and after that it'll be 150/month. She's very similar in personality to me, and has the same confidence issues I have, and she felt the lease would be good for all involved. I am so excited! Especially since a friend of mine just moved her horse to my barn, so we can ride together :)
Now, about last night's lesson. I really felt I rode well, considering I had a very stressful work day and was doing a lot of no-stirrup work. However, I'm starting to wonder if my trainer is not the best fit for me. I have a lot of physical issues with my body (full body arthritis, fibromyalgia, nerve damage in my right ankle), and I feel like she doesn't take this into consideration. She was yelling at me to stop bouncing around when sitting to the trot without stirrups, when not only was it my first time doing so in almost 15 years, but I have a lot of muscle atrophy from being sick. I'm also used to sitting the trot Western, and have only been riding English since April. She was repeating her instructions over and over again, somewhat loudly, as if I was ignoring her. I said "it may not look like it but I'm really trying", and she told me to stop "back-talking".
Umm....I'm not a kid, I'm a paying customer, and I'm not being disrespectful. I also have some pretty deep confidence issues, and her comment just made me feel small. I brushed it off at the time, but it made me start thinking. When we were at the show on Sunday, I was very nervous, especially nervous about riding an excited horse in an area with many other excited horses, and she somewhat yelled at me and said "you need to stop". Again, I'm not a child, and am really not too thrilled about being treated like one.
I'm going to have to think this one through, there are 3 other trainers at my barn, but I don't want to step on anyone's toes either. I'm going to just keep it at the back of my mind for awhile, and if I continue to feel it's an issue, I'll speak to the BO about it.
But....I can't stop smiling today knowing that Fritz is mine 2 days a week !!!