Originally Posted by crimson88
I agree with that statement. Especially where I live, there are a lot of people who literally "breed like rabbits" and though I don't know them personally, I can't imagine that their childern are getting the proper care just by looking at their poor living conditions.
Perhaps that's why I find 19 kids and counting "disgusting" because to me, I feel it's sending the wrong message to people who cannot support a family and making it seem like it's easy to pump out kids and support them, when in reality it is not.
poor living conditions? Well heck, someone call CPS because I think I'm being abused. I'm wondering how you think that they have bad living conditions? They have ample room in their home, plenty of food to eat, clothes on their backs, friends, great opportunity, good schooling, loving parents, and good attitudes. I fail to see how they are in any way neglected.
Yes, maybe some of them don't get all of the attention they want- but what kevinshorses said is right. "the problem with our culture is that children stay children too long." Being given all of this unneccessary stuff such as hour of TV, going out whenever they want, not worrying about the future, etc- is actually killing our future generations. These parents are giving their children the responsibilities of an adult is small, easy to chew bites. They are expected to help the family out from an early age, and when they become adults- they will be well equipped, hard working individuals. Not twenty two year old 'still-a-kid-in-my-mind' young adults with no skills or drive to get anywhere in life.
I am personally not a 'people person' and so would never want to have that many children, but I have absolutely no
problem with large families, the Duggars in particular.
I'm homeschooled, bible based, and I don't get much more than a glance from my mother at best on any given day; outside of being taught. I know she loves me and I'm willing to work as hard as I need to in order to get somewhere in life. My parents will not be able to send me to college because we ARE in debt, unlike the Duggars, and I only have two siblings. I'll have to make my own way in the life but the way I've been taught and the responsibilities that I've been handed even at 15 are going to help me suceed. I have a good head on my shoulders and dispite having dyscaculia disorder I'm an A student. At the same time, my little sister is competely unmotivated, you have to force her to do anything, and she doesn't care about her future. We're from the exactly same family.
What I'm trying to say is that evironment effects a person, yes. But a persons character comes in to play as well. You can't just look at one of the kids or at one of the parents and say 'this is going to ruin the whole family. They wont get anywhere in life because they don't have the material or the wealth to do it. Thus, they must be doomed.'
Anyone can do anything that they put their minds to.
Originally Posted by crimson88
Well it depends on the age and what you would consider responisiblities. IMO I think a lot of kids are already growing up too fast. I'm only 18 but I see 6 y/o's with cell phone, laptops and ipods and have already left a lot of their childhood behind, of course NOT all kids are that way. And then again I see a lot of teens and people my age who are lazy and unnmotivated to do anything productive in their life. Others are eager to jump into an adult life, many of my friends who graduated with me are already married (or getting married) and living on their own, surprisingly. It's 50/50 in my opinion.
This might just be IMO, but I hardly consider moving out, getting married, and expecting to prosper at 17 or 16 'leaving childhood behind' or being 'mature.' They're going to have a heck of a lot of problems when they have kids and don't even have a good foundation. They'll be highschool-GED or graduates hardly able to pay for their housing, let alone food or extras, with one or two kids that they can't afford and so they will lean on the goverment for the stuff they can't provide.
Meanwhile, children like the Duggars will be working their way up through society because they realize that you must work for whar you get.
Doesn't seem like they're neglected to me :/