thank you thank you!
and for all of you looking to learn something out of it, rebecca had a few suggestions that i am going to repeat so you guys can learn from my mistakes ;)
first of all, you dont lean down to disengage the hindquaters when you are changing direction. learning down means game over, so like sonny showed, they can get offended when you send them off again.
another thing is don't let them come to you either their ears back. sonny has his ears back a lot so i never thought anything of it, but it is a very dominating gesture. as she suggested, i back him away quickly and wait until he has a happier face and then bring him back to me. it has worked very well and he always comes to me with his ears forward and happy now :).
also, i shouldn't use my stick so much when getting him to go sideways. she suggested i use my body language first, then my stick as a higher phase. that way he learns to move from my body not right off my stick.
hope that helps some of you guys :). and thanks for the help rebecca!!!!!