Originally Posted by LuckyRVT
I am starting to train my new horse using Parelli methods. Training I think is going great...we are still building our relationship, respect, love etc.. Although now when I go to get her she will pin her ears at me
, I admit I have been bad going to get her take her out of the pin to the yard w/o love first. Although I do give her a few minutes to eat grass (what little she can find in the winter) before we ride or start working. Im going to start just spending some time with her instead of working her every time she sees me, and giving her a good rub down before I halter her. And of course encouraging with treats that im not going to "get her". I know its early but I can't wait until she comes running to me! When she sees me. And doesnt jog away when she is in the grassy pasture or yard. I can't be their every day. I also throw the halter over my shoulder to hide it.
First, this should be in the NH area. You may well get lambasted here.
Anyway-where did you get this idea of "love time"? Seriously? Maybe I have missed that PP lesson. I am not an "indepth PP person", but have spent 6 mo at a PP barn-never heard that one, and frankly-that just feed the whole foo foo training person, but THIS? THis really sound WAY too much like butterflies and rainbows to me.
Here is how I think about it. (as do my NH-including my past Parelli tranier) put it. My horse, and I am guessing your as well, has 23 hours a day to do what they want. I am asking for about ONE HOUR. That is NOT too much to ask, whether they like it or not.
Here is a serious piece of advice. Your whole attitude of all of this "ooo-I can't do _____ she might not like that" and *GasP* NO I can NEVER hit her-that is HORRID". WILL eventually get you hurt. It may not be with this horse or even the next. But I will guarantee one will come along that will take your "butterflies" chew them up, spit them out at you and turn around and kick you as he leaves. In other words-you WILL get hurt unless you gain their respect. WIth respect comes love and trust.