I think that the hard part is that we think the horse will love us if we pet, groom, feed treats, spend time with, etc. However, the horse will usually love his strong leader. All the other stuff is fun for us and I'm sure the horse enjoys it too, but the horse needs someone to be the boss. I'm quickly learning this. Every ride, I'm getting tougher and more dominant. He did some little temper tantrum hopping as we headed out on the trail today, but instead of getting uptight about it, I was like "oh no buddy, we are going!" I got him out the gate and we had our ride. I would like to hug my horse all day (he's very teddy bear like), but after a bit, he's like "ok lady, get out of my coral and let me eat!" :) Good luck with your horse!