Sorry about my lack of paragraph breaks, I'll try to do better.
The snag with Filly is she will move over before I have touched her, and I can get her to move that way. However not all the staff at the yard have that feel and they do touch her at which point she sometimes takes severe offence and kicks out hard.
What I am trying to achieve is that she emotionally accepts the request to move when a hand is placed on her body and doesn't feel the need to lash out at that point. In effect I am trying to train her to live in the real human world that she has to cope with.
I would love to be on a yard where everybody is savvy enough to know how to deal with a very sensitive horse, but sadly that is not the case. Even if it was I would also like to take her to shows at times, or to meet friends, and cannot teach everyone to treat her softly.
In the long term getting her to accept the request to move gently and quietly when touched will greatly improve her quality of life. Prior to my owning her, and having much control over how she was handled, she got treated roughly and learned to put in a pre-emptive strike prior to being touched. She therefore developed a very defensive attitude which must have been a source of continuous stress for her.
This is the attitude I now need to overcome. She has to be shown that being touched with the intention to move her does not mean she is going to be hurt, or have her dignity hurt which is just as bad.
I appreciate your thoughts on pressure, timing etc and have been playing with them all. The good news is that today we made great progress. I gave the sideways movements purpose by making her go sideways over a pole, a cone, and plastic jump wing. This gave her something to think about other than the applied pressure and much of the emotion was replaced with interest.