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post #1 of 12 Old 04-02-2011, 11:51 PM Thread Starter
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Creating a bond and gaining trust.

There is this horse I ride, Norman, who I have known for about 6 months. He has had a very bad past, along with terrible back pain, but was then bought by a lady I work with at a farm and brought back to new. In the past, he has hurt a lot of people, and would barely accept anyone. Those who have heard about the injuries he caused would call him a monster and people are still afraid of him, except for me however(: Norman is very spirited, and has become my goal. I'm not frightened by what he did to people in the past, because it was their fault for miss treating him. All that I care about is that I love Norman and hes in present time now. People who use to ride him was very hard on his back, and didn't have a fitted saddle. As I ride him, I am very light weight and my main priority is to be nice on his back. I think he is beginning to trust that I will not hurt his back, which I believe he fears from the past. I love Norman a lot, and I want him to trust me as much as possible. Norman also has a record of bucking and sending people flying when in the canter, and I want him to trust me so he doesn't do this at all when I canter him. (right now I only walk and trot him) So far, Norman has never done anything to hurt me, and I trust him probably more than I should, lol. I want to have a special bond with him that hes not been able to have in his past years, and I would really like some advise on creating trust and a bond with a horse. Can anyone give me advise and tips on this? I would also like to know if their are any training or communication exercises I could do with him. I was thinking about teaching him to bow, but I don't know if this would irritate him or not.

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post #2 of 12 Old 04-03-2011, 12:02 AM
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Try Natural Horsemanship with Norman. The best way(I think) to create a bond is doing Join-Up. Before I did join up with my mare she would NOT back up for me under saddle.(She's 21 so some abuse might of happened). I tried join-up and i was amazed. I saddled her up and asked her to back up and she did it perfectly. No head throwing etc. You can also just sit with him in his stable. Sing and talk to him. Scratch his withers, feed him treats, take him for walks with you walking beside him. It just takes time.

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post #3 of 12 Old 04-03-2011, 12:16 AM
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agreed with jesskater, it takes time, maybe do groundwork with him, just spend time with him.
Some days instead of riding just go out there and groom him, have some fun

As for teaching bow I wouldn't do it, if you don't really have his respect it could turn nasty. or you could get really frustrated
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post #4 of 12 Old 04-03-2011, 12:43 AM
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When I get a new horse I am concrete on a few things to create the bond. For one I feed and water that horse morning and night and I turn them out and bring them in. The biggest thing I can say on a bond is talking. Tell them your secrets tell them what your going to do what your plans are in life and in riding. I swear my show mare knows english. Bottom line it just gets them used to your voice and comfortable around you.

Next thing is round penning. Do CA or MR, those two are my fave for round penning. Get there trust there do a lot of liberty work and grooming. After that you can start to feel that connection and about then I start riding.
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Thank you guys, that's very helpful (: I have been working on just spending time with him and hanging out next to him in the stables. And haflingerlover, I thought that was funny how you said, "I swear my show mare knows English." That's cute(:
I do talk to Norman, but perhaps I should talk to him more(:

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post #6 of 12 Old 04-03-2011, 11:46 PM
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She does! I don't know how to explain it but yes I swear she does, she and I just click its a magical thing.
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The paint I ride has never been very social, or affectionate to people. He snubs them. I've been riding him for a year now, and all winter I did ground work since it was too icky to ride much (covered arena with walls half way up...too windy). As the winter progressed he's gotten really affectionate. He and I have made so much progress both with our bond and with my knowledge over the winter when I couldn't ride him. It was the time on the ground that made him get attached to me. Now when he hears or sees me at the barn and I'm not paying attention to me, he either squeals at me or kicks his stall door for attention from me. If I'm inside the main barn, he expects me to give him attention and love him. Time with him is going to be your number one way to create a bond. If I could make this horse bond with a person, anyone can do it!


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The paint I ride has never been very social, or affectionate to people. He snubs them. I've been riding him for a year now, and all winter I did ground work since it was too icky to ride much (covered arena with walls half way up...too windy). As the winter progressed he's gotten really affectionate. He and I have made so much progress both with our bond and with my knowledge over the winter when I couldn't ride him. It was the time on the ground that made him get attached to me. Now when he hears or sees me at the barn and I'm not paying attention to me, he either squeals at me or kicks his stall door for attention from me. If I'm inside the main barn, he expects me to give him attention and love him. Time with him is going to be your number one way to create a bond. If I could make this horse bond with a person, anyone can do it!
This is inspiring(:
I will surely try to spend more time with the horse I ride. (:

You say room, I say stall. You say mall, I say barn, you say shopping, I say riding. You say high heels, I say steel-toe boots. You say boys, I say stallions. You say pedicure, I say farrier. Anything you say, I say horses
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This is inspiring(:
I will surely try to spend more time with the horse I ride. (:
Well thanks! It's sort of a joke now, because this horse has never looked for attention, and now he makes all this fuss. We've started calling him a spoiled brat because he always gets attention from me too, but it made my instructor feel good because she's had him since he was a born and he's never been affectionate. Now he asks for kisses and LOVES round penning because at the end he gets to come in and get all sorts of love from me. He's still a butt head to several stall cleaners though, so he still tests everyone else.


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Well thanks! It's sort of a joke now, because this horse has never looked for attention, and now he makes all this fuss. We've started calling him a spoiled brat because he always gets attention from me too, but it made my instructor feel good because she's had him since he was a born and he's never been affectionate. Now he asks for kisses and LOVES round penning because at the end he gets to come in and get all sorts of love from me. He's still a butt head to several stall cleaners though, so he still tests everyone else.
Lol, that is so cute(:

You say room, I say stall. You say mall, I say barn, you say shopping, I say riding. You say high heels, I say steel-toe boots. You say boys, I say stallions. You say pedicure, I say farrier. Anything you say, I say horses
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