I am a firm believer that your horse will teach you everything you need to know in order to be a good horse/person. Being with horses is like carrying on a conversation. When in the saddle you hold a conversation with your hands and your legs, your hands tell where you want to go, your legs tell how fast you want to get there. Being leader means your horse must pay attention to what you are saying, it would be rude for them to interrupt you or ignore you while speaking, you must have their attention. In order to have their attention they must feel you are worthy, as the confident leader. NH is just a term that I feel is so overused it has lost it's importance, somewhat like the word "love". NH from what I understand it to be, the mass marketed version at least, only works because it gets you out there involved with the horse. If you didn't own a DVD, or a book, or a carrot stick, and had never heard of Parelli, all you had was a horse and lots of time,and you put the two together, your relationship would evolve just the same. It is just spending time with the animal and allowing the bond to mature - thats the big freakin million dollar secret...spend time with your horse.LOTS and LOTS of time...the horse will tell you everything you need to know...IF you are willing to listen. I am really turned off by all this "technique" crap...it's like missing the forest for the trees...the big picture is this...spend time with your horse, touch your horse, watch your horse, talk to your horse, listen to your horse, work and play with your horse...get to know your horse and all the while he will be getting to know you...it is a relationship, it takes work...fad horsemanship is just like fad diets...we all know what we need to do to lose weight...eat less and excercise more...but thats too freakin simple, there has to be a harder more complex way that produces quicker more magical results...NO...same with horsemanship...there is no magical DVD that will make you a good rider or horseperson instantly...it takes LOTS of time and experiences to get you there. You bought the horse, in my opinion thats all you need to buy.
Last edited by herdbound; 09-09-2010 at 08:50 AM.