I like the anology of Sky's.
I always say that nothing can be taught if the recipient does not want to learn.
My method is the three Fs - FIRM, FAIR and FUN. It is up to the 'pupil' as to whether it is the easy road or the hard.
If I have raised a horse from a foal then it is going to accept all that is done to it. There might be a few 'What ifs?' But nothing major because they know that it will occur anyway.
I like anything to work things out for themselves so, the 'what if's' are answered by the pupil themselves.
Say an older foal decides not to lead and puts on the brakes, I will apply pressure to the halter and keep that pressure on until it yields to it. No hassle, just let it work it out, yield to the pressure and it goes away. I never have any problem teaching them to tie as they learn this very early on in life.
Where the fear and respect issue comes into play is correcting the horse that has got away with blue murder.
A horse that has learned it is stronger than a human, is a dangerous animal. A horse that has learned that if it threatens to kick or bite the human will back down, is a dangerous one. The horse that has learned that if it bulks, bucks or rears and refuses to go where it is meant to go, is a dangerous one.
I have all the patience in the world to teach something new to anything, if some method doesn't work then I will change my teaching to something else. However, of anything is taking the Michael, then I am not afraid to correct and correct hard.
The horse that swings around and threatens to kick me will get set up to do it a second time, and I will then put the fear of me into it. It will learn on one hard lesson that kicking is a NO NO.
On the other hand there can be times when a horse is difficult because it is trying to say something and it is not being listened to. An example of this would be a horse that is difficult to tack up but respectful in all other ways. It could be that it is saying "this is going to hurt." and things like tack fit need to be looked at.
As I said earlier, respect is a form of fear, in that you have the wish to please because you will be letting the other down if you do not. It is not terror at all.
All training is on going, let the little things slip and the major issues start to appear.
Last edited by Foxhunter; 08-29-2013 at 01:59 PM.