Sorry if this is long but want to try and explain my situation.
I bought an 8 year old Qh mare a couple of months ago. She was listed as a trail horse that had been started on the barrels. Her temperment was listed as a 2. Scale 1-10 10 being very hot. The day I went out to ride her was very windy and cold and it had rained a lot the day before so the outdoor arena was sloppy. I figured it would be good to ride her in the worst conditions possible rather than the best. I watched as their son rode her then I rode her. I felt comfortable on her right away which is unusual for me. She backed, worked off my legs, walked and trotted away from the gate and did everything but loped. Too muddy for that. Then I got her home. The first time I rode her she was like a different horse. She wouldn't stand still while I was trying to brush and saddle her. Then when I tried to mount she wouldn't stand still. I finally managed to get on her and she wouldn't listen. Kept jigging. I only rode her a few minutes it was still really windy and put it off as being in a new place. For a week or so I just was brushing her but then she started refusing to stand tied. Pulling back and broke a couple of halters. The next time I tried to ride her it didn't go much better but I did ride her longer. The last time I rode her I lunged her first and that seemed to help. I haven't ridden her since thinking I should do ground work. I took her out to lunge her and she did ok, then when I asked her to go from a walk to a trot she just took off, pulling the line out of my hands. I got her and lunged her longer but at this point I don't know what to do. I KNOW she plain out doesn't respect me. Somehow she sensed my lack of confidence and is trying me.
I have access to a round pen so I can take her there and work. If someone can give me advice I'd appreciate it. Please don't tell me to work with a trainer, I live in a small town and there really aren't any around here.