Well, I have very different ideas about respect... I think respect is a human idea, not a horse idea. Horses value the herd mate that is the older, wiser, been there done that type personality. The strong and silent type, the come-along, let me show you what's what.... Before horses can know how much we can help them, the need to know first that we won't hurt them. Be patient, kind, gentle, cause your horse to feel that they can be safe with you. If they are behaving in a way that is pushy, or aggressive- in the beginning, simply walk away- over time, they will want you to stay with them and they will change their behavior. When they decide that they want to be with you, that you are not threatening, a lot of that pushy behavior will melt away. Then, you can begin to teach them the behaviors that you want from them, safe behaviors, smart behaviors And they will lap it up because they know what you want, it feels good to give it to you, and this builds their confidence. I "spoil" my horses with massive attention and positive reinforcement- I don't correct "disrespectful" behaviors, I simply teach them what I want from them. And I have to tell you- my horses are easy to manage, they respond instantly to my suggestions, they are super safe and they do their work joyfully!
Now regarding bonding- the horses that bond with each other in the herd spend time together... eating, playing, dozing in the sun.... if the herd is large enough that herd mates truly can choose who they want to be with... they will not choose a horse that is very aggressive towards them. They will choose a herd mate that they have mostly harmony with. Hang out with your horse, spend time with your horse- and make all your training... just an extension of your hanging out time.