The misunderstanding. - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #1 of 18 Old 09-11-2009, 01:56 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: California
Posts: 775
• Horses: 3
The misunderstanding.

The middle aged woman pulled into my driveway about 15 mph too fast and about an hour and half late.
She parked in a most inconvenient spot and stepped out of her new truck with a three horse aluminum trailer attached.
Her sharply appointed Western clothing accented the matching paint job on her rig and the jingle of her silver spurs added a chime to her walk.

"You the man I spoke to on the phone" she asked as she stuck her weathered hand out to shake mine.
"Yes Ma'am" I answered.
"The SOB I told you about is in the trailer and I want you to ride him and tell me what you think".
After our greeting she unloads a sorrel 7yo gelding and hands me his lead line and I start over to the tie rack to park him while I get my saddle.
"He doesn't tie,he is just 1200 lbs of stupid and breaks every post and halter I have ever put him in".
As am walking him to my saddle,the sunlight ketches his side just right and I can see a couple of dozen spur dimples running along his belly line at just about the right length for her leg.

I think to myself that it must have been a misunderstanding.

She continues"The bas***ds sire won $250,000 dollars and I can't get him out of his own tracks,Just a waste of money"

I dropped the geldings lead rope on the ground next to my trailer and got my brush box out and started to get to know the new horse.
As I passed the brush through the short hairs of his back I could not help but notice the old saddle sore marks behind the withers.
He flinched at each one of my slow movements and as I approached his head,his eyes turned white and opened wide.

I think to myself that it must have been a misunderstanding.

My saddle was slipped over his back and the proper fit was checked.
As I reached for the cinch the horses head swung around toward me and the owners voice rang out "Smack that sob hard "

I did not.

As I approached the idea of the bit he would be asked to wear for that day,I started to look over his head and mouth area and discovered sores in the corners of his mouth and Very sensitive bars of his jaw along with being generally head shy.

I decided to stay with the halter to avoid a misunderstanding.

"Your not going to put a bit in his mouth" she questioned.
"Lets just see how this goes ma'am and we can go from there"

As I mounted up and settled into this horses ride,it was obvious that he was just waiting for the hammer to fall and feel the pain that was so familiar to him.

I rode him for about a half of an hour and he did everything I asked him to do and that horse tried as hard as a horse could try.
I felt every shake and quiver in each nervous stride.
I found that if I raised the the lead rope that I was riding him in,that he would jump out from under me in an attempt to speed up.

I thought to myself that it must have been a misunderstanding.

Finishing the ride,I explained to the owner that I would be happy to take the horse on and work with him,but it would more than likely take 3 months or so and I would need for her to change a few of the way she was handling the horse.

She left quite mad and I think we had a misunderstanding.
Marecare is offline  
Sponsored Links
post #2 of 18 Old 09-11-2009, 02:53 PM
Green Broke
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Maine
Posts: 3,850
• Horses: 2
Marecare, that was a very sad story, but you told it very well. Poor horse, arrogant/ignorant woman!
Walkamile is offline  
post #3 of 18 Old 09-11-2009, 04:27 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: NC
Posts: 161
• Horses: 2
Originally Posted by Walkamile View Post
Marecare, that was a very sad story, but you told it very well. Poor horse, arrogant/ignorant woman!
and that's putting it mildly! someone should put an ill fitting saddle on her back, a bit in her mouth and get on her with a large set of spurs.....

I'd make her jump 6 foot fences before I was done.
Miloismyboy is offline  
post #4 of 18 Old 09-11-2009, 06:14 PM
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 301
• Horses: 1
That makes my heart ache for that poor, poor horse! That person IS NOT a true horsewoman! What a hateful attitude!
Luv 2 Trail is offline  
post #5 of 18 Old 09-12-2009, 11:54 AM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Scotland
Posts: 1,444
• Horses: 1
Did she end up leaving the horse with you? I'd feel very bad for the poor thing if she took him away, just to continue mistreating him.
thesilverspear is offline  
post #6 of 18 Old 09-12-2009, 12:27 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: California
Posts: 775
• Horses: 3
Originally Posted by thesilverspear View Post
Did she end up leaving the horse with you? I'd feel very bad for the poor thing if she took him away, just to continue mistreating him.
The horse is up for sale and I think the horse will go to an auction.

I never got to work with the horse,because the owner wants it done a certain way and that way has not worked with the last two trainers.

I feel that every horse that goes to one of these auctions has a story that goes along with it.

I wonder how many were just handled wrong and got labeled "Rank".

It is sad.
Marecare is offline  
post #7 of 18 Old 09-12-2009, 01:55 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Northern Utah
Posts: 5,455
• Horses: 1
I started a really nice gelding for a guy a few years ago. I had him for two or three months and he was just fantastic. I transitioned him from a snaffle to a curb bit and he took it fabulously. When I took him back the man wanted to ride his "broke" horse with me while I rode the "green" horse. When he was putting the bridle on his horse I noticed that the bit didn't have a curb strap. I didn't say anything about it untill he started to get on. I said " your curb strap is missing". He looked at me like I had started speaking french and ask what a curb strap was. He had been riding his "broke horse" in a curb bit without a curb strap which effectively turns it into a torture device. I HATED leaving that good horse there for him to ruin. I spent about two hours giving him a crash course on basic horsemanship. The difference between him and the lady in the OP is that he just didn't know but was very willing to learn and she wallows in her ignorance rather than go to the effort to climb out of it. I think he got some help and ended up not totally ruining what I had built.
kevinshorses is offline  
post #8 of 18 Old 09-13-2009, 11:21 AM
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Sonoran desert
Posts: 698
• Horses: 2
People should be required to get a license before purchasing a horse of their own. Stories like mare's and kevin's make me sick.


dashygirl is offline  
post #9 of 18 Old 09-13-2009, 09:54 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Southern Idaho
Posts: 46
• Horses: 0
Hey Kevin,
How does using a curb bit without a curb strap turn it into a torture device? I am not trying to be smart. I hadn't heard of that before. Just wondering-

Rod is offline  
post #10 of 18 Old 09-14-2009, 12:34 AM
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Foothills of Central California
Posts: 38
• Horses: 0
Very, very sad, and unfortunately, all too common. Some people just have no business having animals at all. At least you tried to help, Marecare. Hopefully, the horse will get a halfway decent owner as a result of the sale and will have a better life.
Skeeter9 is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome