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post #1 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 05:27 PM Thread Starter
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Refusing to Join Up!! HELP!!

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I tried to join up for the 1st time with my 2 year old QH mare, Bella. I drove her around my round pen with her lead rope. She kept her ear locked on me the whole time but didn't lower her head or chew air. Everytime I stopped her she would turn her but to me instead of coming up to me. After a while of driving her around the pen she stopped. I did everything I could to get her to move, she still wouldn't. Did I do something wrong?? I need help urgently beacuse my parents said that they would sell her if I didn't get her trained this summer.
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post #2 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 05:56 PM
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is join up a requiredment for you to get her trained? What else are you doing and what sort o fhore is she in other respects/ have you ridden her yet/

When you are in the round pen, does she run around are on practically or do you to push her quite hard to get forward movement. Will she slow down when you take the pressure off, and speed up is you apply it. D
When you stop moving her around, turn your back to her and move away from her, will she follow?
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post #3 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 06:46 PM Thread Starter
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is join up a requiredment for you to get her trained? What else are you doing and what sort o fhore is she in other respects/ have you ridden her yet/

When you are in the round pen, does she run around are on practically or do you to push her quite hard to get forward movement. Will she slow down when you take the pressure off, and speed up is you apply it. D
When you stop moving her around, turn your back to her and move away from her, will she follow?
I think joining up with her is a important part of training her. I was waiting to get her roundpenning well before I put her saddle on but she is fine with the bridle and saddle blanket. I have put weight on her and done groundwork on her such as moving her front and hind end around, sidepassing, backing up, and foot work.

She is easy to get moving, but she gets tired fast and stops until I can get her going again. She will slow if I stop but won't come to me. I turn my back but she just looks away. I tried to answer your questions but I may have left some out.
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post #4 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 07:03 PM
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Have you trained a horse before?
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post #5 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 07:25 PM
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I think joining up with her is a important part of training her.
At this point I think the training part is more important than the joining up part. I've NEVER joined up with Sky. And he trusts me like no other because I focused on completing his education instead of finding ways to force him to bond to me.
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post #6 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 07:41 PM Thread Starter
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I haven't trained a horse before but I watched my dad every step. I was supposed to train my horse Sunny with his help last year but she got colic and passed away. My dad starts them out with roundpenning and slowly introduces things to it so I don't know another approach. If you could tell me what sort of training method you used, I will try it.
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post #7 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 07:49 PM
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Driving a horse around the round pen does nothing for them.

Ditch the join up and work on your groundwork. Join up is not necessary to train a horse. And will do more damage then good unless you know what your doing.

Ask your dad for help and advice. Continue with your groundwork and work on saddling.
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post #8 of 37 Old 05-28-2013, 08:49 PM Thread Starter
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What kind of groundwork? Sorry I am asking so many questions but I want to try it right. I'm not sure what else to do with her.
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post #9 of 37 Old 05-29-2013, 01:21 AM
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'Join Up'(& many other training techniques) is something you can't do well just following instructions or copying someone. You have to know implicitly why, why not, when, how much, etc. If you don't understand the process & the way the horse understands it, it's too easy to make a big mess of a horse. Why are you trying to do 'join up' & what do you want to achieve with it? There's probably an easier, clearer, less confrontational way there, for you & the horse.

If your father trains horses & was going to help you, won't he help you now? If you haven't trained a horse before, I would advise experienced supervision at least, because way too many things can go wrong.
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post #10 of 37 Old 05-29-2013, 11:21 AM Thread Starter
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My parents are divorced and my mom doesn't want him to help. I want her to understand what I am trying to do and I thought it would help her but I was wrong.
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