Okay, where do I start?
My share horse has a very strong bond with her field companion and the two other horses on the yard and becomes instantly agitated when seperated from them. When taken in from the field and up into the empty yard she becomes very distressed - pacing in her stable and calling to them. Her hay net seems distract her temporarily, but this may only last for 15 minuites!
When riding in the school I find it didifficult to keep her attention on me, no matter how many half halts and circles I try. She often gazes in the direction of her friends. When riding a few weeks ago all the horses were moved into a field out of sight, causing her to become very agitated - she began calling to them and was completely out of my control.
When leading her she often barges into me and treads on my feet, when this happens whats the best way to deal with it head on, if you know what I mean? The lack of respect and trust she has in my makes me feel angery and upset which I know just makes everything worse. I desperately want her to enjoy being ridden by me and feel safe with me and not worry about the absence of her friends. I would love to be able to hack out alone with her rather than working in the school, but it's just not possible at the moment.
It's strange because the first few times I rode her I didn't really have any problems ( I've only been riding her for a couple of months) people have said 'She's just putting it on because she thinks you're soft.' Is this the case? What should I do?!
I just have no idea where to start. Should I join up with her? I've never tried it before but I've read Kelly Marks 'Creating a bond with your horse' and I'm familiar with the stages....
If you've read this far, you're a star and any help/suggestions are very much appreciated!