People can believe what they want, but I've seen Parelli do things to a horse that would have gotten him shot on my grandfather's place and are certainly NOT how to deal with a horse. He is so stuck on his methode working and working quickly that he'll push a situation and even do things that are at best risky if things don't progress the way he wants them to.
A good example (that I was not there to see) was his demonstration of getting stallion to accept a bridle at the UK's Royal Festival of the Horse. At the end of his demonstration the horse still had not taken the bridle and all Parelli had accomplished was to make the horse more difficult to handle at the time and physically damaged it so that the vet said the horse couldn't be used for the next days demonstration. What amazes me is Parelli fans thinking that what he did was ok
. It's sad when people are so unrealistic about something that they "can't see the forest for the trees".
That is NOT how training a horse naturally is done. We all get frustrated when a horse becomes difficult and won't learn or accept what we are wanted to teach it. Forcing the issue is no better than going back to the wild west way of breaking horses through force (which is exactly what Pat was doing with that stallion). Some of what Parelli does works with some horses, but you'll never hear him admit that it doesn't work with all of them and that sometimes you have to do things more slowly and/or use a different methode.
Of course the same can be said of the packaged training system for sale and promoted by every "natual" horse trainer I've seen. They are all right and they are all wrong. They are right in that they all say you can train a horse with trust, time and patience. They are wrong because they all say that you can train every horse "their" way. (but then they wouldn't be selling much if they said their way doesn't work with every horse
I've watched Parelli do things that weren't working and do things that didn't need to be and shouldn't have been done. Seen some of his "certified" instructors spend an hour failing at something that I spent 20 minutes to have success at with the same horse. Why do Parelli trainers come out so brainwashed thinking they now know the better way? I know why Pat doesn't admit his way doesn't always work (wouldn't sell if he did).
One trainer, who is of course a huge fan of Parelli (also really wonderful person and good friend of mine), as since acknowledge that I've made faster progress with the horses I'm working with than could have been done with them using Pat's techniques. (He's coming around to reality....just takes time to show them
) Horses are individuals and what works with one might not work with the other.
Don't get into lock step using anyone's training system. The biggest things you need for training any horse is common sense, patience, knowing the horse and having it trust you.
There is a right way, but you won't see anyone packaging it for sale. It's the way the gets the job done with the least amount of stress. That could mean 5 different ways to teach 5 different horses the same thing.
Pat or any of the other people who are marketing a system are not bad people. I'm sure they do have a good understanding of horses, but they've become so hung up on "their" way being the only "right" way. When it's often not the right way and in some cases absolutely the wrong way. Understanding
horses in general, but more importantly the specific horse your dealing with. Common sense
about what's working, being able to see when something is not going to work and adjusting to something that works better. Patience
so that you don't move faster than the horse is ready to accept and knowing when to stop as soon as frustration starts. Trust
is something the horse needs to have in you and you'll need to cultivate and maintain it. Gain it and keep it.