Join Date: May 2011
Location: Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
I like to think I have a pretty special bond with my mare. When I first met her, she was a baby on the track. She was scared, head-shy and a bit touch-and-go with her moods. She didn't want to cooperate with her handlers and she was as spooky as a horse could be. Yet, she decided to trust me. It wasn't long before I had sole care of her. If I was nearby, she would accept anything that was introduced to her. If it came time to walk to the track, she would fuss until I was at her head and then she would walk calmly. She would jog her training miles like a good girl, but refuse to come off the track unless I was there to take her back. For some reason, she chose to bond with me over anyone else.
Then she was sent from the barn and I lost track of her for 12 years. When I found her again, she was visibly excited to see me. The first time I saw her, her owners warned me that she was standoffish and would probably ignore me. When they led her around the corner and she saw me, her ears pricked forward and she started snorting and nickering. When she was led closer and I took her line, she pushed her head into my chest and sighed. She remembered me and her sellers were quite surprised.
When I go to the barn to see her, she will leave the hay she is eating or the horses she is with, and she will trot toward me to say hello. If she's feeling feisty, she might dart away after she's greeted me and invite me to play a game of tag. She stays a few steps ahead of me for a couple minutes, and then she nickers and lets me catch her. She follows wherever I lead her and will look for me if she feels unsure. She's wary of men and will skitter away, but if I'm reassuring her, she will stand and let them work with her. Most people who meet us comment on the bond we have and the special understanding. I've known her for so long and her quirks haven't changed. I know the mare inside and out and I trust her completely. I know she will never intentionally hurt me and I trust that she will not purposely try to dump me when I'm riding her in just a halter and bareback. In return, she trusts me to keep her safe and healthy, and to work with her funny personality. In a way, I feel like the expects as much of me as I do of her and together, we're a pretty good team.
Now, I don't know if that's the same kind of bond she could have with a horse, but I'm pretty confident that no matter the relationship she develops with her herd, that it will never trump the one she and I have. She is 100% my horse and I am 100% her person.